Originally posted by: kaustav
I have posted very few times in any forum.
yes number of posts are enough to tell that.
Would like to respond to your post, but please bear with me for the response might go in several directions.
i would appreciate healthy and topic related discussions, so i ll bear it till it stays w.r.t. topic
Mainly because your post is not merely about the emotion called love, it is also about the character of the person who is in love.
definately zara is an icon for many ladies, and i had to consider all the best qualities she has, she is no way a normal woman whose life is only limited in being housewife, she is unparallel so yes it was need to consider ZARA, thats why i never made post about kutumb on such issue, because Zara can not be labeled in same category as of kutumb.
When the emotion of love is true, I think we can all agree (regardless of man or woman) that true love is the closest you can get to feeling the presence of a nameless, faceless Divine Power. I should know...I have felt it. So, a person who is under such a spell, is capable of doing things that cannot be rationalized. The spell part is underlined to indicate that it is possible that a person in love is not himself or herself during that phase.
means you agreed that person looses himself/herself being in love??? but sorry its not justified to me, be it many great persons of world, if every one would have blinded by love then definately noone would have preferred to marry, the army men if would have been blinded by love, then nation would have banned marriage for them, because to serve a nation you need not to be blind, so Zara being blind here is not justified, i am not able to co-relate how you generalized blindness in love to everyone??
If you are looking for answers like "why is a patriot who was ready to sacrifice anything for her nation is now struggling with a mentally sick person?", I am not sure you will find any answers. Because after you peel off the layers that go into making a man or woman of the world who can discuss the stock market or manage an entire household or run a successful business, what you are left with is a beating heart that draws it sustenance from being loved and needed.
you mean mere a beating heart can change the whole scene?? i have always witnessed people making love an inspiration, but in zara's case i find her getting insecure, weak and numb in front of situation, her decision making art has been totally deteriorated, if being in love can make you brainless then why to get into it time and again, i would have appreciated zara's decision to stay away from rishi and re-count her state of mind but for me making fast decisions was her fault
This feeling of being loved and needed is what makes a person. The loss of this feeling breaks a person. When we talk about self-respect in a failed relationship and letting bygones be bygones, I as a man who has seen relationships around me failing, can tell you that a person starts healing only after someone loves and needs him/her again. Same is the case with Zara.
i know when you are going through broken and shattered relations you need someone by your side to hold you, but it is not always the case, my one relative is divorced and she got lots of proposal to marriage because she is quite rich may be, but she always told us that she wont let herself fall for any man now, and today she has adopted a child and she is a proud mother, i would appreciate such ladies who win over her hard times alone rather than relying upon shoulders of other man for consolation.
The part in your post about a woman being an epitome of sacrifice draws heavily on stereotypes. There are women who sacrifice a lot in life. I am not questioning that. But think about Zara for a minute. She has just found this man who loves and needs her. She also loves and needs him. Suddenly, there is this mentally challenged person (for want of better wording) who threatens this feeling. She will snatch Rishi from Zara because she needs him more. Now, to use that yardstick of the sacrificing stereotype on Zara and say that she should have willingly sacrificed her happiness in favour of someone who threatens this feeling of being loved and needed is a bit unfair. At the end of it all, she has the same beating heart.
there i meant "can a mentally challanged person be really a threat to her relationship??" it means that she didn't have trust over herself, she even lost belief over hers, thats the reason she was afraid of mentally challenged person, because no one can deny that lw was like a small kid, who herself can not take care of even hers, how she can ever be a threat? a beating heart or a self - concised heart???? which wasn't able to see that there is an innocent girl in LW hungry for love, zara would have taken care of indira herself keeping rishi away, but she preferred throwing lw into asylum, i feel that girls indeed get blind in love, atleast before she cared for indu, and when indu fought with shweta she made indu realize how much shweta loves indu, but where has all this common sense of her gone?
So your question about whether love makes a person strong or weak, though valid, depends on the person. In my opinion, love in isolation, is just a feeling. An emotion that can be experienced, treasured, valued, and passed on. But in itself, until it is supported by unwavering trust, cannot stand on its own. Mere love cannot make a person strong or weak. The trust in the other's love is what makes a person (not even the couple) strong or weak.
well said, i would have agreed to you completely, but this word "trust" if it was still left in zara's heart, she would have never sent LW to asylum because rishi promised her that he will never let lw come between them, but trust was the only thing missing there, rishi trusted zara can never throw lw in asylum but zara did, trust was again missing, so love without trust might be a point.
May I say that I am surprised you did not have similar questions about Rishi's love? What prompted you to ask these questions of Zara's love in particular? Not asking this to rake up an argument or a controversy. Mere curiosity.
The character Rishi was never tried to glorify by the CVs,they have always kept
him as a chracter close to reality,with his own flaws and as well as the
qualities that make him more dearer to the normal viewers watching the show..And
whenever the matter has been abt love,this man has never erred in my eyes .He
has always been true to this feeling..So,this post was not in his context, hope u understood 😊
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