Posted: 13 January 2013 at 7:56am | IP Logged
Originally posted by IndigoBlues I'm honestly tired of this whole blame game now.
The middle class blames the politicians. The politicians blame the police. The police blame the middle class. It's a vicious circle, and yes, it has exposed the sexism and patriarchy present in our country.
But c'mon. It's not like we never knew. I don't know why people are so 'shocked' when they hear MP's and godmen making foot-in-the-mouth comments. We are the ones who vote for them(or rather don't vote) and go to their meetings. Why are we absolving ourselves of any association to them?
There are people who are demanding that the culprits should be tortured like the victim was. There are people who are saying the police force should be suspended.
Tell me something, is giving the culprits a horrible punishment going to serve any purpose apart from turning us into a bunch of barbarians? And how can you blame the police force for being apathetic when they're so under-staffed and under-paid? Isn't it our fault for being too obsessed with engineering and medicine to notice that our country needs us for its security too?
The self-righteousness-both in the comments of the middle class and the political class-it drives me crazy. Everybody is eager to say 'Oh but I didn't do it, the big bad wolves in Lok Sabha did', like it'a stupid kindergarten fight.
Admit that the society as a whole is responsible. Society includes everyone-politicians, police, 'aam aadmi', the slum dwellers, every possible culprit you can think of. A society that is comfortable with ignoring poverty, illiteracy and patriarchy until some poor girl gets her intestines ripped out.
And please, do something constructive. Don't just hold candles or throw stones. Educate your children. Teach them the difference between 'good touch' and 'bad touch'. Don't be shy to discuss sex. Don't pass judgements on people who according to you are 'Westernized'. Talk to your mom the same way you talk to your dad. Speak up against male influence in the family. Speak up if you see a friend or a female relative being mistreated. Don't romanticize rape by saying 'Oh, but agression is just another word for passion!' next time you see violence against a woman on a TV screen.
Sign petitions. Do whatever, but just stop this blame game.
so what should be done????? let them enjoy secured peaceful life??????
it is sooo easy to preach that the culprits should not be tortured... humanity... blah blah!!!
i just wish... once... for once... people try and empathetically view the girl and her family...
try and step in her shoes, her mom's shoes... her father-brothers shoes... god-forbid she could hav been you, or your sis... even then u would have said kepunishing the culprits is barbaric????
today you say candle marches are not cunstructive enough... well then what is?????
i agree that rape is an act of domination... so is ragging (although its miniscule before rape)... but dont we try to protect it????
and what police are you defending???? was the police understaffed when it wqas lathi charging the protesters?????
if they are underpaid... then should we add to their salaries????? understaffed???? if goverment does not wish to recruit police... then what should youth do???? forcefully recruit themselves???? and the police that is there... the laws for them were made in 1861... have not been revised so far... 65 yrs after independance... police reforms yet to see the light of the day!!!!
you find middle class self-righteous?????? let me enlighten you!
do you have any idea about the corruption in this country... so so so many scams...
forget all scams... just consider the value of cwg+2g. you know... if this amount instead of being skimmed off to swiss banks was distributed among indians...EACH INDIAN WOULD HAVE GOT 5 LAKH RS... whole poverty of india... gone!!! it is mind boggling!!!!
when the government has to recruit police, doctors, teachers etc... open colleges... then government says we dont have enough money but does not bat an eyelid while giving corores of rs to industrialists as tax redumptions?????
which people attend the meetings of politicians... u think that most of middle class does it??? have u seen the rallies???? do i need to tell u what is the crowd there?????
my sociology teacher was once saying that in india, nothing is impossible! if government wants... within days it can remove poverty, caste system... corruption ... illitracy etc..!!!! b ut govt does not do so because they know that educated masses will first and foremost challange them only!
this is so true!
and in the end... the middle class you are accusing... is the sole hope of this country...
the candle marches enforce the solidarity... proove that indians can still get togather and shun selfishness of their jobs...
if thats not constructive for you... i dont see what is constructive then?????
and if u are saying "oh... its too little to late..." then all i can say is little steps make big leaps...
indian goverment would have shamelessly pardoned the'juvenile' who ripped out intestines with his bare hands...
but now they are talking of changing the law...
it takes efforts to come out on streets and face the lathis of police my freind!!!!!
you cant take a blanket and cover the whole middle class of india...