Posted: 19 May 2013 at 12:26pm | IP Logged
Everyday sexism is so ingrained in us that we accept it as a foundation of our society and this problem is universal.
I am visiting England for the summer and I found this project and corresponding website http://www.everydaysexism.com/
I learned that I am not alone in these subtle comments, jeers and assaults. Everyone feels them at some point. I have read stories from almost all the Western countries. They all cry inequality and lack of understanding by others. If you say what happened, friends and family laugh it off as normal. This is only the beginning of acceptance toward prejudice.
Then, there is the stigma attached to mental illness. People sweep it under the rug. If we know someone has criminal or dangerous tendencies or stresses and triggers that may push them over the edge, we tend to overlook the signs. Anti-social, borderline personality disorders are not consider as real as cancer or heart disease. Mentally ill people linger around without treatment far too long and then they explode. People are victimized, raped, killed because of our inability to provide resources and help for these preventable assaults.
Shifting focus to the victim not the rapist. Damini was out with a man at night. How dare she be a successful woman? How dare she choose personal freedom over societal restrictions? She must have dressed provocatively. This is unacceptable and still widely accepted.
(Barely there) Punishment is in focus but preventative measures are not even a topic of debate. People talk about hanging and castration for the rapists but we forget ,more often than not, it is someone you know who commits the heinous crime. Family and friends are the predators and reported cases will dwindle down when the victim will be discouraged and ostracized for ruining the life of their predator with a harsh sentence rather than the other way around. Preventative measures can and should include sexual education programs. Providing healthy outlets to relief aggression. Teaching men to become allies to their female peers. Teaching women to become conscious of what counts as assault and what to do about it.
As far the movie sex scenes go, I think it is acceptable to include those scenes (art imitates life). However, the creatives need to be mindful not to endorse non-consensual violence under the pretense of love.