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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 7:36pm | IP Logged
@nolla,
What Shiv did to his family w was as small  oversight. But the commotion it caused with his mom is real. That is how in families people swet the small stuff. It is a small thing considering what Shiv is going thru. Poor guy on his first night he is confronted with a major marital problem. As a husband it is his duty and responsibility to take care of it. It was a spur of the moment decision compelled by the situation. He was going to tell his parents the next day. But DS beat him to it. What can he do? Poor shiv is caught in such situation. Same thing happened when DS asked him to marry A. He shared this info with Ashima. Within a minute Ashima revealed it to A.he got bashed by A.marriage is a big tension in our Indian families. Every relative is demanding. The couple could end up displeasing some one with out realizing.in our culture we do not give enough space to any one.for a woman even before pleasing or get to know her husband she has to please all the other relations. Same with the boy.people find faults with small small omissions or lapses.

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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 7:40pm | IP Logged
Thanks for the update Mahi..
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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 7:59pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Jan50

@nolla,
What Shiv did to his family w was as small  oversight. But the commotion it caused with his mom is real. That is how in families people swet the small stuff. It is a small thing considering what Shiv is going thru. Poor guy on his first night he is confronted with a major marital problem. As a husband it is his duty and responsibility to take care of it. It was a spur of the moment decision compelled by the situation. He was going to tell his parents the next day. But DS beat him to it. What can he do? Poor shiv is caught in such situation. Same thing happened when DS asked him to marry A. He shared this info with Ashima. Within a minute Ashima revealed it to A.he got bashed by A.marriage is a big tension in our Indian families. Every relative is demanding. The couple could end up displeasing some one with out realizing.in our culture we do not give enough space to any one.for a woman even before pleasing or get to know her husband she has to please all the other relations. Same with the boy.people find faults with small small omissions or lapses.

Jan50, I agree but i ll still say that what he did wasn't right!!! You can call someone in a diifferent town but can't talk to your mom next room???? No i wont buy that. Believe me in this show, am the 1st persone who wants to see AnSh together more than anything but what they just did to IRA, i cant digest it. 

I know its not easy to please everyone, but they could just ve taken a minute to talk to her.!!! B'coz it took them only a second to inform DS. Lastly and formost, mothers always cry from their hearts, so u dont see the damage you make. I also know that my Shiv (SID) is going through a turmoil, but he is shown in the show as a persone who can stand up even infront of a huricain!!!!! He should ve talked to his parents, as really it hurts to learn things about your child from a third party...
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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 9:58pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by sakshi.ch

You know, speaking from my own experience and the experience of my married friends, a guy's parents become more possessive and interfering after their son is married. No offence to the guys or parents but a wife is expected to do/change everything as per her in laws after marriage. And if the couple makes plans for visiting wife's mayka, which in this case would be their permanent home because of their jobs, people in the in law's family say that their son is becoming joru ka ghulam Confused.

It was refreshing to see Shiv take his own decision, which is best for his new relationship and not turn to his mom/sis for everything. 

In our country, when a guy listens to his parents all the time then he is tagged shravankumar / dutyful, but if he makes some decision for the happiness of his wife, he is called joru ka ghulamDead...Is it fair?

The only small matter was timing of the communication. If Ira is doubting Anandi, then maybe she doesn't know her son at all...
  I don't think it was a case of parent's interfering. Parents were hurt because, staying under the same roof, DS got the news first and Shekhars go to know from them instead of Shiv. So feeling hurt was a natural reaction. 
Yet again Shekhars have not blamed Anandi for this, but confronted with Shiv. When he expalined, they supported his decision.
 
Ira has started to feel insecure because so far she has only seen Shiv bending for A and not other way round. And she is only sharing her doubts with Meenu to get second opinion.
 
These feelings crop in until we start trusting a person completely. A is still new, so Shekhars don't know her well. Moreover A has not done anything to bond with them or to win their trust. Trust winning is 2 sided. Shekhars have done everything to make A feel welcomed, Anandi hasn't done much so far.
 


Edited by Missesha - 09 January 2013 at 10:22pm

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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 10:18pm | IP Logged

Thanks for the WU Mahi...

 

I am really wondering is this the same Ansh whom we know before marriage... Shiv's dialog "aap aapne log go ke saath bahut kush hogi" so who are shekar's "paraye"...

 

Taking a decision to go to Jetsar is fine but informing DS before shekars is where the problem lies... Shiv has done a big blunder but what about Anandi... A lady who hesitates to take gifts from others without seeking elders permission is all ready to go with him without consulting the elders….. She has heard the convo between Ira and DS, where Ira clearly states that they want to spend sometime with their new bahu…. So even if Shiv had decided, she should have informed the same to him and should have cancelled this trip…..Anandi who used to put others happiness in front of hers, has now become so insensitive about what others feel …. this is so not in place…..

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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 10:28pm | IP Logged
I think shiv never thought that itne chhoti si baat itna bada issue ban jayega..uske dimag me ye khayal nehi aya..anyway shiv bhi ek insaan hai aur use situation samajh ne me thoda galti ho gaaye..per dadisa ko kya jarurat thi subha hote hi phone laga ne ki..thoda intezar nehi kar sakti thi..i don't like to see singhs familys interfare in ansh life after marraige..anandi kuch din unse dur rahe to hi accha hai..

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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 10:39pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Momrin

I think shiv never thought that itne chhoti si baat itna bada issue ban jayega..uske dimag me ye khayal nehi aya..anyway shiv bhi ek insaan hai aur use situation samajh ne me thoda galti ho gaaye..per dadisa ko kya jarurat thi subha hote hi phone laga ne ki..thoda intezar nehi kar sakti thi..i don't like see singhs familys interfare in ansh life after marraige..anandi kuch din unse dur rahe to hi accha hai..
 
Momrin, you are absolutely right, it is a chhoti se baat... might be in past also based on his job profile, he would have woken up in the morning, just informed and moved from place to place. It would have been normal...  Now also the family would have not taken it seriously if it had come from the couple instead of DS...

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Posted: 09 January 2013 at 11:04pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by saviani

Originally posted by Momrin

I think shiv never thought that itne chhoti si baat itna bada issue ban jayega..uske dimag me ye khayal nehi aya..anyway shiv bhi ek insaan hai aur use situation samajh ne me thoda galti ho gaaye..per dadisa ko kya jarurat thi subha hote hi phone laga ne ki..thoda intezar nehi kar sakti thi..i don't like see singhs familys interfare in ansh life after marraige..anandi kuch din unse dur rahe to hi accha hai..


Momrin, you are absolutely right, it is a chhoti se baat...might be in past also based on his job profile, he would have woken up in the morning, just informed and moved from place to place. It would have been normal...Now also the family would have not taken it seriously if it had come from the couple instead of DS...


yeah i also think that if they know this news from the couple they never make issue on it..now anandi can easily solve this prblm by refuse to going back jaitser..by taken this step she can remove ira's mu & proved sanchi's bakwas wrong..don't know what is in cvs mind but hope for the best that they show smthing like that..

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