Pressure on Snadhya?

Why is there all this pressure on Sandhya to conceive a child immediately?
Meenakshi has been married longer than Sandhya. No one has ever raised a comment about her or noted that a child hasn't been conceived until now.

But everyone is pushing Sandhya to have a child immediately?

I dislike Santosh in that she lets other, unimportant women pressurize her into taking hasty and ridiculous action. Like promising Sandhya will conceive in 3 months.
Santosh could have easily deflected the comments by saying that she is happy that one grandchild is on the way and more grandchildren will come when they are meant to. Meenakshi's child is coming when it is meant to, and so will Sandhya's.
That would have shut up the women and put Santosh at a superior place.

But with this new challenge, it shows people how easy it is to play Santosh, and leaves her with a chance to be humiliated.
And if she is humiliated, then Sandhya is blamed and punished.

I really want this double standard behaviour towards Sandya to stop.
Santosh loves her now, and is fond of her, but never tries to understand her or what she wants. In a way she hasn't changed even a little from the way she was in the beginning

Very valid points. Let me try to give you my take on why these things happen in Hanuman Galli. Edited by UMDU - 11 years ago

well, what i know about these traditional families is that the eldest bahu is expected to give a heir to the family first. hete in this case situation is slightly different, since suraj is married later she cannot be expected to produce first but bhabho wants it to happen at the earliest. in such families if woman don't give good news in first year then such questions arisrs.
plus she knows that they have not being closr to each other so she might be having a fear in her heart that her son maynot get what he deserves.
another point is that lady is egoistic in nature.had it not been case she would not have got suraj married to a girl whom she barely knew anything about. it was her good luck that the girl turned out to be sandhya, suraj could have easily got married to a mad girl.it happens that even brife and groom is exchanged on mandaps in arriange marriages.
thirdly she thinks if sandhya gets pregnant her fear that suraj may go against her for sandhya's education will fnish.
having said that i agree with you that bhabho has double standards,firstly between man and woman then between her childrenss and bahus.
and i agree that when to have children is exclusive right of a couple and more of woman.
and yes one thing that i would like to add is that she loves suraj more than her other childs so she wnts to see the face of suraj's son, vikram's son is different thing. and ego does get better of everyone ,bhabho toh phir bhi has grey shades.
p.s. i m not a bhabho supporter 😆 😆 Edited by -rp- - 11 years ago

I think there is no pressure on Sandhya, because Meenakshi is already pregnent.

good post TM...I agree with UMDUji and rp...just one thing to add, this issue does not only happen in traditional families, but also in modern families with educated MIL...I've seen and seeing many cases like this, even among super modern chinese community in my country 😔

Nice topic TM.