Problem is not with shiv, it is with anandi.
He is not despo, she is a psycho nakhrebaaz
I am quite frankly am sick of anandi's nautanki and her nakhras.
When entering into a marriage, it is understood that being physically intimate is a part of it, and a natural expectation a man will have.
What did anandi think? That marriage just meant a wedding ceremony to satisfy her mother's soul and after that she and shiv will live like brother and sister or as roommates sharing rent in one home???
I would have been quite okay with her behaviour if this was truly an arranged marriage in every sense of the term ... where she never met the man... and the first time she could talk to him/see his face was on the suhaagraat itself. Then yes, it might take time to get intimate and then her behaviour would be fully justified.
But... here she and shiv have known each other for quite some time, he has professed to being in love with her, she is comfortable with him ... so I dont see anything wrong in shiv's behaviour ... and I think anandi should have been prepared for it.
To look so scared and big eyed is ridiculous, particularly for a 25 year old woman ... who has married a 32 year old man.
And it is obvious that shiv is not initiating it to obtain cheap satisfaction of his physical needs. He sees physical intimacy as an expression of his love for her, he wants to be close to her.
And here is this stupid anandi who "requires more time" what nonsense!