Posted: 27 December 2012 at 7:04pm | IP Logged
Building trust and then maintaining that trust is no game of Building
blocks that kids indulge in. Sometimes an appearance of a crack is
enough for a person to abandon the house that he/she built painstakingly
for years and with many hardships.
This was never a normal
marriage to begin with and as such the trust issues are a little
different too. This is being brought out so beautifully, after taking
months of building up to it, that sometimes I forget to applaud...I am
When Aarti fell in love, she had no fear of Yash
ever loving any one other than herself...if he ever did. That security
was part of Aarti's happiness and wait. She knew she may have to wait
for years but eventually Yash will fall in love with her. That's why she
never had any trust issues in love. Yash, on the other hand doesn't
have the luxury. A very living Prashant in the form of her first great
love stands in front of him...as such it is natural that he has to
grapple with a gnawing suspicion and conveniently find reasons to
override the other glaring facts that could refute this new poisonous
belief.I am not upset because of what you did to me...I am upset because when you stumbled, you didn't hold your hand out to me.
and Aarti...soul mates...sharing a love so palpable that everyone
around them feel the warmth of the stream of light that emanates from
their united being. What then is causing them to stay apart?
Well...unfortunately they are normal human beings with a somewhat
not-so-normal past character baggage: If she is flawed in her sense
loyalty, which is actually obligation-in-disguise, he is prone to
jumping to conclusions, thus allowing outside factors and influences to
influence his belief when all that he should be doing is drawing his own
conclusions after taking a look at the entire canvas.
that informed individuals normally do not jump to conclusions...they do
so only if improper or incomplete or distorted information is exchanged.
So, if we go by this theory, it means Yash would have been fine with
Prashant's reappearance in Aarti's life, given his belief on the
solidity of First Love, if Aarti had come clean with him months earlier?
I don't think so...he would have still felt insecured, till Aarti would
have convinced him otherwise. What needs to be corrected here is his
blind faith in the power of first love. He needs to understand that
love...the real love...does not fall pray to an ordinal number. Aarti
needs to assure him and instill that new faith in him by embracing this
love as the absolute love of her life in front of all, in spite of the
love she had for a shadow from the past...She needs to change his
perception of love...only then he will believe that she truly loves
him...Prashant or no Prashant...who then will be relegated as a past
cotraveller . Again, where Aarti is concerned she is secure in her
belief that since she has confessed her love and since he trusts her so
much, he will never pull away when he comes face to face her deception.
She blindly trusts him to trust her...and as such is unable to recognize
the withdrawal symptoms that he is suddenly showing.
little word for the power to make or break an individual. At the moment
few words that referred to the past but spoken by Aarti in the present
is gnawing at Yash's subconscious...day in, day out...Those words were
instrumental in the state of broken trust he finds himself at the
moment. When the your trust is broken by the one closest to you, the one
you implicitly trusted, the real problem arising is the painful
realization, "Who can I trust? I am totally alone now." This then
becomes a greater pain. First, you trusted and loved someone who let you
down...and then you realized that you may never trust again, ever...and
that deepens your pain. Because of this subconscious realization, you
cannot let go of the pain of the event (in Yash's case, the words that
keep attacking him with lethal potency) because it is not actually the
event that hurts but that it has the power to render the rest of the
life hindered. The subconscious should never accept this event, because
if it does, then, the doubt turns to reality. However, if the words play
on in his mind, and if he can find a good reason to make them
disappear, there is hope for a life with trust. So to keep that hope
alive, Yash hangs onto those incriminating words.
Since they are
both so careless with the understanding of trust, the symbol of their
marriage breaks. Aarti stoops so low (in her lies) that trust issue
literally hangs between them and with one careless stroke of hand by
Yash it breaks. But the love they share comes to their rescue...he won't
let her stress herself, so collects the scattered beads of distrust and
hands them to her safe custody...who again painstakingly strings them
together to make a whole. However, this whole is weakened now, so now it
needs a joint effort to strengthen it. She builds the trust...he is
needed to uphold that trust, especially when the source of distrust
raises its ugly head again. So even if she carelessly takes the trust
for granted and keeps it aside for the moment...seemingly in lieu of the
urgent summons...he picks it up and keeps it. Subconsciously, their
mutual love is taking turns to protect the trust. They should never
forget what the father said...that these beads are only symbolic and not
the elements of their life. In life, they are already bonded with many
invisible threads that sew them in a strong bind on a daily basis.
and Aarti know each other, understand each other, as none before...He
knows that her actions are initially very annoying and easily misread;
it's only when comprehends the reasons behind them that one only feels
ashamed of thinking wrong of her and then admonishes oneself at not
seeing something that was so simple. She knows that Yashji hides behind
self-created Arpita wall whenever he has to face love. ...The lovable
dunces now need to trust their inherent trust and have a showdown with
their scattered beliefs...beliefs that are drawing a canvas using
someone else's easel and brushes. They need to understand the blackness
of that canvas...and remove it. Only then will they be able to start
over with a new canvas and paint it in the vibrant colors of their own
muse...their own dreams...
That's it friends. Yash
follows with distrust in his heart...hope he ends with a stronger trust
and a clearer picture. She needs him more than he needs her...at this
moment. It's one thing to be concerned about her physical health...it's
totally another thing to make himself aware of her emotional suffering
and extend a hand to be the healer of her much-trampled-on heart!!!
Have a nice day.