Originally posted by apolloartemis
What you said of media portrayal of VD's mom vs mom-in-law, how much do you think is influenced by the skin fairness? I know India is still obsessed with that (I have cousins who when they go out in the heat wear gloves as they do not want to get tanned.)
What a shame. VD's mom have doubtless done a lot for her son. To get pushed into the background seems really unfair.
100% color discrimination. I am dusky myself and I know that blatant discrimination . Photographers are always about beauty ...that's hard reality.
VD's mom...looks athletic and has her own unique style of presentation, open hair and all that. She reminds me of my all school teachers, who had their own unique style, That shows a personality in itself that is not bothered about impression she will create on others, but is all about her standing on how she wants to express herself. In contrast, VB's mother is all about beauty and how she can impress others.
Actually this underlying difference is what made me think about VD giving equal importance to his mother and Mother-in-law
His mother like him a sports-lover/personality, is grounded as they both love mud...(keechad), so not scared to be brash and open. Sports is all about ACTIVE energy, brutal expression.
His mother in law...don't know what she is. But the way she impresses everyone, is sure going to give a SUPPORTIVE GROOMING for VD to create an IMPRESSION for HIMSELF as well, since he is now in ACTING/Performing Business. It really should matter to him, about a presentation that is visually appealing public personality. VD can actually learn from VB's mother what his mother would not be able to teach.
So he is grounded on the REAL HIM and HIS OCCUPATION requirements from both these mother figures. That is what I think.
At the end of the day, VB does say VD needs to mature, VD says he is a family person and he has been emotionally hurt in this business and hence likes to have a grounded feeling so that he does not feel bad...so he sticks to VB as she allows him to be what he wants to be...kiddish or whatever.
I actually have seen, VD may be brash and silly with his PDA acts, but his AWARD ACCEPTANCE SPEECHES spoken with such spontaneity have been HONEST, GENUINE and GROUNDED. He thanked showmakers, his team, Indresh Malik (Bittuji), His mother, MIL(when with him and not when not present) and VB (as she is always there).
So basically he DOES NOT FORGET HIS MOTHER even when she is not there. And all that grounded wisdom comes from his first security, his mother, family and his expressive energy-the footballer in him which knows that he has to aim for the goal.
I guess now you got why I was thinking so hard on the two mother figures for VD.
This is me saving some links for VD notes :)
Edited by 0-SD-0 - 13 January 2013 at 3:41pm