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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:42pm | IP Logged
I have never been to India, if I ever got a chance to go then I would defo go.  These sorts of crimes happen all over the world, I live in UK and these crimes happen here too.
 
Only some people are bad that live there, the country and the population at large are good.
 
 

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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:43pm | IP Logged
I don't live in India but visit every year. My mom gets super protective about me at that time. As a grown up, I have no restrictions on how I dress up and where I go out, but when I go to India, it's all "mom knows best". 

When I visit my relatives in UP, I have to wear loose fitting shalwar kameez and not go out alone. There is a bunch of female cousins or a male cousin with me at any given time. I'm often told to not make eye contact with men so that I don't become aware that I'm being gawked at and hence don't feel uncomfortable. But I always make eye contact because to my mind, it is dangerous not to make eye contact when you're outdoors. Often, I feel helpless during my vacations because I'm stripped of my basic freedoms. It's a self-respect-losing kind of helplessness. Like, if I have to just get soda from the market, I can't just go by myself because respectable girls do not do that. I'm under the mercy of whoever is available at home to oblige me. Once, my nine year old male cousin tagged along because none of the older men of the house were available to go with me to the market just down the frigging road. I saw my nine year old cousin's chest inflate with pride that he was given the responsibility of  escorting his 20 year old female cousin. That belittled my self respect a lot. As if he'd be able to do something if anything bad were to happen. Most likely I'd be saving his tiny ass. 

But the feeling of pride he felt is the crux of the problem. Patriarchy demands boys to become men. To become saviours of good, virtuous women who have the decency to not go around unescorted. Conversely, it is loose women with zero morals who walk around freely, wearing whatever they like who are not worthy of respect and hence fair game. 

Sadly, most women themselves choose the convenient route of conformity. They are quick to label and ostracise another woman who doesn't fit the code. Patriarchy perpetuates.

Sorry, I did not mean to write an essay but I got worked up. My answer to TM's question is that I don't feel safe in UP/Delhi (Bombay is fine in parts) but I never too overwhelmed because I know I'm only there for holiday. 

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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:47pm | IP Logged
Just got news she passed awayCryCry God please give her peace.

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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:48pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Mahek_No1

I have never been to India, if I ever got a chance to go then I would defo go.  These sorts of crimes happen all over the world, I live in UK and these crimes happen here too.
 
Only some people are bad that live there, the country and the population at large are good.
 
 

Yes but what is the ratio? 1 vs 100, or 1 vs 1000? I know these things happen here as well but cmon unless you have been to India and seen it first hand how bad it is then I say you are uninformed. People literally strip you naked with their eyes; I aint even kidding. The drool that leers out of their mouth when they see you as a piece of meat is pathetic. 

Every opportunity you can be expected to be grinded, rubbed, groped off, and if that doesnt happen then there is always sleazy remarks, whistles, or unsolicited attention.

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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:49pm | IP Logged
I live in Pakistan!! I really want to visit India at least once in my life!! 

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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:51pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by dipali13

Just got news she passed awayCryCry God please give her peace.

My condolences; what a tragic event. In my mind she was already dead when they took her modesty, stripped her naked, spit, beaten, deviled, impaled with a rod, and then thrown off a bus.

Even animals dont do this; heck even animals will be outraged for that comparison.

Now just wait and watch how one by one, goes scott free with slap on their wrist and the story is forever lost in the history books.

Shame shame

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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:53pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by dipali13

Just got news she passed awayCryCry God please give her peace.
 
Oh god that is soo sad, she suffered so badlyCryCry, I hope she rests in peace and justice is done for her and her parents.  Those Mor*ns need to be hanged to death but before that they should be tortured really badly then no-one will dare to commit such a sin AngryAngryAngryAngry


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Posted: 19 December 2012 at 12:54pm | IP Logged
She is alive,don't spread rumour...there is always rumour in internet,don't believe all time.

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