Ladies: Do you no longer feel safe visiting India? - Page 2

Posted: 11 years ago
Is it safe to be in schools in the USA? Or theaters? How about temples?  You can't prevent tragedies and/or encounters with sickos. You really aren't safe anywhere. The only thing one can do is to keep your guard, be it India or the USA.

Whenever we go to India, I have only been there three times, we hang out in groups. It helps.
Posted: 11 years ago

In India you will get raped and you will die.

In USA you will get shot and you will die.

In Middle East you will get bombed and you will die.

In Eastern Europe you will be a sex slave and you will die.

In South East Asia you will work in a sweat shop and you will die.

In half of Africa you will be hungry and you will die.

In the other half of Africa you will get AIDS and you will die.

 

I know these are gross generalizations, it is true, no place is 100% safe. But we cannot ignore problems. We need to take them on and find solutions
Posted: 11 years ago
I feel super safe when I am in Mumbai. Once I step out of it, my guards are up. 
Posted: 11 years ago
See this is what's exactly wrong with our community; they get extremely defensive over the slightest issue. However admitting to the fact that we do have a problem is the first step in rooting out causes of the problem.

I never said any country is 100% safe -- it isnt. However we should not bury our heads in the sand to not realize that there is a genuine problem prevalent around India particularly in the Delhi region.

Every country has problems, however there is something really wrong with our society, we should no longer ignore it as another statistics, these things happen in every nook and corner. Unfortunately very few are reported, and then a very rare percentage ever sees the light of media or so called justice, the majority are never heard.


Posted: 11 years ago
I have never been to India, if I ever got a chance to go then I would defo go.  These sorts of crimes happen all over the world, I live in UK and these crimes happen here too.
 
Only some people are bad that live there, the country and the population at large are good.
 
 
Posted: 11 years ago
I don't live in India but visit every year. My mom gets super protective about me at that time. As a grown up, I have no restrictions on how I dress up and where I go out, but when I go to India, it's all "mom knows best". 

When I visit my relatives in UP, I have to wear loose fitting shalwar kameez and not go out alone. There is a bunch of female cousins or a male cousin with me at any given time. I'm often told to not make eye contact with men so that I don't become aware that I'm being gawked at and hence don't feel uncomfortable. But I always make eye contact because to my mind, it is dangerous not to make eye contact when you're outdoors. Often, I feel helpless during my vacations because I'm stripped of my basic freedoms. It's a self-respect-losing kind of helplessness. Like, if I have to just get soda from the market, I can't just go by myself because respectable girls do not do that. I'm under the mercy of whoever is available at home to oblige me. Once, my nine year old male cousin tagged along because none of the older men of the house were available to go with me to the market just down the frigging road. I saw my nine year old cousin's chest inflate with pride that he was given the responsibility of  escorting his 20 year old female cousin. That belittled my self respect a lot. As if he'd be able to do something if anything bad were to happen. Most likely I'd be saving his tiny ass. 

But the feeling of pride he felt is the crux of the problem. Patriarchy demands boys to become men. To become saviours of good, virtuous women who have the decency to not go around unescorted. Conversely, it is loose women with zero morals who walk around freely, wearing whatever they like who are not worthy of respect and hence fair game. 

Sadly, most women themselves choose the convenient route of conformity. They are quick to label and ostracise another woman who doesn't fit the code. Patriarchy perpetuates.

Sorry, I did not mean to write an essay but I got worked up. My answer to TM's question is that I don't feel safe in UP/Delhi (Bombay is fine in parts) but I never too overwhelmed because I know I'm only there for holiday. 
Posted: 11 years ago
Just got news she passed away😭😭 God please give her peace.
Posted: 11 years ago
Originally posted by Mahek_No1


I have never been to India, if I ever got a chance to go then I would defo go.  These sorts of crimes happen all over the world, I live in UK and these crimes happen here too.
 
Only some people are bad that live there, the country and the population at large are good.
 
 

Yes but what is the ratio? 1 vs 100, or 1 vs 1000? I know these things happen here as well but cmon unless you have been to India and seen it first hand how bad it is then I say you are uninformed. People literally strip you naked with their eyes; I aint even kidding. The drool that leers out of their mouth when they see you as a piece of meat is pathetic. 

Every opportunity you can be expected to be grinded, rubbed, groped off, and if that doesnt happen then there is always sleazy remarks, whistles, or unsolicited attention.

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