Originally posted by aparnauma
Originally posted by mocking_bird
We may or may not agree. But,Jagya and Anandi were married and that is the way whole relationship has been shown.
Sanchi is however a different ball game. She was against Anandi from the very beginning because she could never connect to /attempted to connect to Anandi. She has her views,her opinion was very roughly brushed aside by none other than Shiv,when he asked her to go back to her hostel. That must have rattled her and put her off in this marriage. We may say,she has no say in this marriage. But,in India, every family member has a say in a marriage. Such type of people abound in our society. There are people who when they speak to your face you would not know what reply you would give! I do not defend Sanchi here. But she is not always wrong.
I do think she had a point when she said the Sighs are unnecessarily interfering in the lives of ANSH. They are.
People getting out of a bad marriage that happened in their adulthood and people/young adults coming out of child marriage can not be considered as one category.They thought they were husband and wife because they were told they were husband and wife.Both are trying to move out of it in their own way.This is my opinion
Coming to Sanchi-I never seen a college going daughter of the family having a say in the selection of a bride for her much older brother who is holding a very responsible position in the society.Even in India I have never seen anybody other than the elders having a say in the selection of bride or groom for their children/grandchildren.
When my brother and sister got married my parents never asked for my permission to go ahead and I finished my education and was working woman.I was only informed of their decision.To my knowledge that's how marriage alliances work out in Indian familes.
When I say that every one has a say,it does not mean that the opinion is binding. But, in every Indian family,when a marriage is fixed,every one makes a comment(*either jokingly or seriously) about the bride/groom to- be and that is quite natural. No one asks for the opinion/agreement or disagreement of youngsters in marriages,the way no one asked for Sanchi's opinion. Having a say and asking for a decision are two different things.But,she had an opinion like everybody else. For that matter,no one had a say in Shiv-Anandi marriage as the bride was chosen by Shiv himself and every one accepted it.
Now coming to marriage and divorce,I am not trying to categorise any thing here because I am not the story teller. I am only commenting on what is being shown and what I do not agree with. In the story they were shown as husband and wife,irrespective of whether they understood the nuances of it and they underwent a divorce like adults after attaining adulthood. whether they are moving out of it or making an attempt to move out or not I will take some more time to observe before I pass a comment on that.
I find the story now stands at cross roads and positive turn of events do not look very imminent to me at least.