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Hesitantly Asha admits that her daughter was her favourite, but is quick to add that her sons are very dear as well. "As she grew older we became friends. And I always thought she will go away when she gets married, but these boys will always be with me. I didn't realise then that she would go away forever."
Badrinath says he remembers telling her she should think about getting married soon. She sat me and down and said, "Papa, abhi aap do saal chup rahiye. (Dad, don't bother me for two years) After two years I will get married to whoever you want, wherever you want. Just give me two years to prove myself. We also thought it would give the family time to recoup financially when she began working."
Marriage seems to remind her parents of Awnindra Pandey, her friend, who boarded the rogue bus with her on December 16.
"My daughter and Awnindra were friends, nothing more. Pata nahin kya kya likhte hain unke baren mein. (We wonder at all these things that are written about them). Why can't two people just be friends? He used to call her on her phone often and if she couldn't take the call he would speak to us. If she spoke to him on the phone, it was generally in our presence. There was nothing to hide," said Badrinath.
"We knew she was going out with him that day. I go back to that day every day. I stood at the door and waved goodbye and she said she would be back at 8 pm. She was always careful and always called me when she reached her destination and on her way back. That day, she didn't call. After 8.30 pm, I called her and when she didn't answer her phone we called his number, but it was switched off," says her mother. "You do know what happened after that. I keep thinking about it. How can anyone want those men to live?"
Speaking on the phone about the Mumbai gang rape, Gaurav says, "Cities have to be made safer, but unless these men know that they will be put to death if they rape a woman, these incidents will go on."
Revisiting that night at Safdarjung hospital, Asha says, "Her face was swollen, her eyes were closed, her lips were split. The doctor tapped her face and when she saw us she started crying. Even then I thought it was an accident. When I came outside the room, the doctors told us.
"She used to cry because she was in severe pain, but she told me not to worry, she would get better. My daughter was such a fighter."
The family reiterates the need for the death sentence, a locus they refuse to move from throughout this interview.
"Yeh jo mindset ke baarein mein log baat karte hain, how will the mindset change if the law doesn't," asks Asha. "I believe that if girls are told to follow rules -- don't wear this, don't talk to that person, don't do this, don't do that -- boys should be made to follow the same rules. Why should there be a different set of rules for women?"
Her mother says her daughter was never made to conform. She hated going back to their village in UP. She found she had nothing in common with her relatives. She wore western clothes, had her hair streaked in the neighborhood beauty parlour, listened to English music, watched Bigg Boss with her brothers while her parents slept in the next room.
"Itne sangharsh kiye, raat din padhai ki, sirf ek hi khayal aaya man mein -- ki humein aage badhna hai, hamare family ko humare saath aage badhana hai. (She worked so hard, studied night and day just so that she could be successful). The atmosphere in the house was upbeat, we were so happy. Toh phir bhagawn, aisa kyun hua? Hum nahin mante hain ke bhagwan hai, (Why did this happen? We don't believe in God anymore)," cries her mother.
In death, as much in life, their daughter has made good her promise to secure her family's future. Her father says they have money now -- a compensation' of Rs 15 lakh from the Delhi government and Rs 20 lakh from the UP government and a house. One member of the family has also been promised a government job. "People say we benefited from the incident. I want to tell them that if they are mothers or fathers, they will realise what it is to lose their child."
He says the money is not theirs. "It's our daughter's. So if and when we spend it, it will be on educating her brothers. That was her dream and we won't let it die. But so far, we haven't touched it."
Her mother says, "We have to live whatever life there is left for us, but I keep asking myself why am I still alive? We want to ask God, where did we go wrong? Why did this have to happen to us? Why did you not save her? I keep asking questions, but I never find the answers."
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