Good discussion topic Razia!
Here's my take on things: Judging whether a given human
behaviour is right or wrong depends largely on the context. In general, we say
that stealing is wrong. But what if a person, living in a corrupt society
riddled with social inequalities, and being mistreated by his employer, steals
food from the market in order to survive; we might not be so quick to judge
this behaviour as wrong.
Coming to SurYa, Razia has rightly said that starting off on
the wrong foot can jeopardize one's success down the road. But how did SurYa
start their pursuit of happiness? From what I remember, they both decided to
approach Bhabho and have an honest discussion. And we all remember Suraj's
convincing and respectful speech to Bhabho as he sat under the soon-to-be
shattered water pitcher! In that same scene, Bhabho had said that she was
willing to even go against god to deny Suraj's request!
(this has to be the
height of stubbornness). I guess what I'm trying to say is that SurYa did
follow the right way, but that didn't get them anywhere.
Now, they were left with two choices: continue to convince Bhabho
or move ahead on their own in their pursuit of happiness. (forgetting the dream
was not really an option). Again they decided to choose the more right option
of trying to convince Bhabho. The next day, Suraj told Bhabho that he will
continue to hope that she will change her decision. It can be argued that Suraj
didn't try hard enough to convince Bhabho, but we should also realize that
Bhabho was on the attack. She very cleverly went after Sandhya and convinced
her to give up her dream. And when Suraj found this out, he knew he was dealt a
heavy blow and was on the brink of defeat.
Now, they were again left with two choices: fight back and
get Bhabho to agree or move ahead on their own. The first option would mean
Suraj fighting on two fronts: first, to convince Sandhya to lend her support,
and second, to fight back against Bhabho (who really meant it when she said that
even god can't get her to change her decision). Suraj must've rightly thought
this to be a lost cause. How can Suraj win in this fight? Bhabho had already
taken away his greatest strength, Sandhya. Blackmailing Bhabho was more likely
to fail, as Bhabho was much more tactical than Suraj had thought. (we are also
aware that in the past, Bhabho was more successful in blackmailing Suraj; so trying to blackmail her is risky business). Keeping all this in mind, and still
choosing to stay the course could have seriously jeopardized Sandhya's dream. From
Suraj's POV, it would've been an irresponsible thing to do. So he chose to move
ahead on their own. Given the context, I for one, can't find sufficient reason
to blame SurYa for their decision. They chose the best and the safest of the
I am actually enjoying this track because it's not a white
and black situation. Good vs. evil is often the subject of many stories, but
for me, the stories with grey in it are much more entertaining, as they are
more realistic. We rarely find in our lives decisions that are as clear cut as
black and white. More often, the important decisions in our lives require us to
choose between two options that are neither completely right nor completely wrong.
Okay okay ... I will stop my bhashan now! If such a long
post doesn't get the discussion going, I don't know what will!