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Posted: 06 December 2012 at 7:26pm | IP Logged

She already opened her dimaag and dil, but dont know what is there in it. She is very stupid in that department. Mahi role is to make her and his bhai get closer by heart and anandi to understand what is there in her heart. Remember she compared her love to mandir while talking to ashima and that mandir is empty now as it was broken by jagya. Shiv and shekhar family will teach her to think realistically in life and not be stupid. Her dimaag already must have been corrupted with DS and jaggubhai nonstop emotional atyachar drama all her life. I am glad atlast she got a modern open minded family(forget the stupid saanchi).

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Posted: 06 December 2012 at 9:37pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by shivanandi...

I don't think it's that simple. The most important thing I got from that conversation is exactly that Anandi is worrying about what you just said. Her concern isn't as much for herself as it is for Shiv and what she thinks she won't be able to give him, and I think that speaks volumes about what she feels subconsciously, even though she doesn't see it yet.

You have to remember she blamed Shiv for agreeing to marry her, when she didn't know he loved her. She was going to go through with the marriage then too, because of her mother's promise, and because she thought this is what everyone wanted, including Shiv. Now she knows he loves her, and that makes it even more of a situation where she's going through with it for everyone's happiness, but now it includes his, and hers, although she doesn't fully realize that. She has a really ridiculous concept of love, like we heard in her phone conversation with Ashima, but I don't think she's ever truly felt it. At least not the kind of love that happens between two really compatible people who understand each other and are meant for each other. Whatever was between her and Jagdish was forced by the circumstances, and was 'swabahvik' attachment, and she ascribed her own ideas of love as once in a lifetime to it. But she doesn't know what love is.

Also, all this confusion is mixed with the sadness any woman feels on leaving her home before marriage. It's her attachment to her past and childhood speaking, not mature love for Jagdish, not even the Jagdish of five years ago. That flashback occurred as part and parcel of her memories of her past. I don't think she would forget that that Jagdish of five years ago grew up to cheat on her, call her backward and disrespect her mother's memory at her funeral. But she's going into something unknown, and that's scary for anyone. And she's doing it anyway, because she knows it's what her mother wanted and also what Shiv wants. I'd hardly call that selfish. These doubts about her own feelings have more to do with the heat of emotions she was feeling at the prospect of leaving, and were coming from her looking back. When she looks forward, it should be fine.

I think the fact that it's taking her so long to realize is a good thing, because when the realization does come, it will be profound and romantic and grand and beautiful. Or at least, that's how it should be, if the CVs have any sense. Tongue

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Very well said dear...Agree with u 100%...Particularly like ur analysis about Anandi and love...@ blue...nothing more to add to it except that I wish other viewers would also try and understand A's reasons for that sentence and her feelings...She needs time...Shiv is more mature and knows this and is willing to give her time...He knows that somewhere deep down she cares for him and also that she is afraid of accepting her feelings because deep down the fear of betrayal is still there...Its only after they live together day-in and day-out will he be able to work his way deep into her heart...So I think we should give Ansha and the CVs also time to show this cute and unique love story develop further after Ansh marriage...

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Posted: 07 December 2012 at 1:00am | IP Logged

Originally posted by jack0007

todays episode was fine n nice except for the part when anandi said love happens only once and she will not be able to love shiv the way he loves her.

yes we all know the marriage will happen and the day will come when anandi will love shiv more than she could ever think..

but the point is if today she feels that love can happen only once then why is she marrying shiv..just bcoz of her mothers promise?.how cud she be so selfish?..how cud she not realize what she is doing to him?.(yes she did realize but is not acting on it).its totally out of character for her to be so selfish..she should back out if she feels that she cannot love shiv...

yes anandi doesnt love the jagya that stands before her today...but todays episode showed that she is still very much in love with the jagya she had 5 yrs back(she is nostalgic about d beautiful moments she spent with him.)one cannot love 2 at the same time..she has to first stop loving the old jagya if she has to love shiv..

choti maa was right when she asked her whether she would be able to forget her past...her past moments with her husband n if she would be able to give him the love he deserves..todays episode showed that she has preserved her past memories with jagdish n even today relishes them.

i still feel sry for shiv..he was doing the right thing when he was calling off d marriage...he knows dat anandi doesnt love him but expects one day she will...but if anandi feels that she will never be able to love him y is she marrying him?... she has become as selfish as jagdish..

atleast for the sake of her friendship n for the sake of humanity for d guy who has done so much for her she should have tried to talk to shiv about her issues all this while after d diwali episode instead she keeps smiling n blushing when he openly confesses his love towards her again n again..

if she cannot love shiv n doesnt love present jagya then she can verywell be alone..its not like that is not an option bcoz that is what she had always wanted to do..

atleast it would be much better than what she is doing now.

There is a saying roughly translated it says after the whole reading of Ramayana, you ask whose father is Sita. Strange that after so many years of watching BV, you have now discovered that Anandi is selfish. Bravo. . . . . Jitna tareef kiya jayey woh bhi kum hai LOL

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Posted: 07 December 2012 at 1:33am | IP Logged

Originally posted by jack0007

todays episode was fine n nice except for the part when anandi said love happens only once and she will not be able to love shiv the way he loves her.

yes we all know the marriage will happen and the day will come when anandi will love shiv more than she could ever think..

but the point is if today she feels that love can happen only once then why is she marrying shiv..just bcoz of her mothers promise?.how cud she be so selfish?..how cud she not realize what she is doing to him?.(yes she did realize but is not acting on it).its totally out of character for her to be so selfish..she should back out if she feels that she cannot love shiv...

yes anandi doesnt love the jagya that stands before her today...but todays episode showed that she is still very much in love with the jagya she had 5 yrs back(she is nostalgic about d beautiful moments she spent with him.)one cannot love 2 at the same time..she has to first stop loving the old jagya if she has to love shiv..

choti maa was right when she asked her whether she would be able to forget her past...her past moments with her husband n if she would be able to give him the love he deserves..todays episode showed that she has preserved her past memories with jagdish n even today relishes them.

i still feel sry for shiv..he was doing the right thing when he was calling off d marriage...he knows dat anandi doesnt love him but expects one day she will...but if anandi feels that she will never be able to love him y is she marrying him?... she has become as selfish as jagdish..

atleast for the sake of her friendship n for the sake of humanity for d guy who has done so much for her she should have tried to talk to shiv about her issues all this while after d diwali episode instead she keeps smiling n blushing when he openly confesses his love towards her again n again..

if she cannot love shiv n doesnt love present jagya then she can verywell be alone..its not like that is not an option bcoz that is what she had always wanted to do..

atleast it would be much better than what she is doing now.

Lol anandi is either selfish or Mahaan...she' s never normal!

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Yes Cm was right, she realized and understood that Anandi will not hang over her past.

Shiv was also right. He understood that he made a blunder by assuming things listening to one side of the story(J's story)

What seems wrong is ur mis-interpretation. Anandi was only re-collecting her past while she looked at the Haveli and the people in it. I don't know how this is taken as love for Jagya Dead

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Posted: 07 December 2012 at 1:38am | IP Logged

because anandi is mahaanta ki murat...jisey shiv jaise ladke se pyar nahi ho sakta...everyone want gauri to come so that she just see anandi ka sukhi parivaar...but anadi cant never b sukhi... LOL

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I think it is more her fears and apprehensions about her future tha made her react the way she did.

She may not be in love with Shiv yet.Because it is an arranged marriage for her.Yes she is getting to know of the person she is getting married and likes him and respects him a lot and she is quite happy at the thought spending her life with him.

But her fears stem from the way she was rejected by Jagya.She has loved him and given all that she had to that relationship and still it had not been enough to save her marriage.So she is naturally apprehensive about her own abilities in making this marriage work.She was more worried about doing injustice to him.Had she been selfish she would not have been worried at all and probably this thought about her perceived inabilities would not have crossed her mind.

She also has been led to believe like most of the people do that love happens only once.That's why she is doubting her abilities to love Shiv like she loved Jagya.

But if we go by the flash back scenes of J.It is more of nostalgia for the times they shared rather than her love for him.So obviously she doesn't realise that love she has for Jagya is kind of different from what is expected of her from her husband in this marriage.

Her sentence that she may not be able tove Shiv comes from this thought.

Had she been selfish at all she wouldn't be having this talk in the middle of the night.It is her fear that she will not be able to make S happy has kept her up in the night.

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Originally posted by shalluuu

because anandi is mahaanta ki murat...jisey shiv jaise ladke se pyar nahi ho sakta...everyone want gauri to come so that she just see anandi ka sukhi parivaar...but anadi cant never b sukhi... LOL

I want Gauri to come back and burn with jealousy watching Anandi's happiness. I want G to see how a collector drools over Anandi...and how well she is treated by her in-laws and how Anandi is blessed by both the families and the whole village.

I want G to see all this because , she once wanted Anandi to watch her palace in Mumbai where she live with the good for nothing fellow J and she tried to show Anandi how much J loved her! Yeah that's what you do when you don't actually have it--- just show off!

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Posted: 07 December 2012 at 2:58am | IP Logged

Accha hi hai that Anandi is being selfish now. Uski selfless mahanta pasand jo nahi tha logon ko LOL

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