Posted: 03 December 2012 at 8:03pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Rupunzale
Originally posted by gems4emma
Originally posted by Rupunzale
Why I cannot sympathize with Shireen ?
Rashid wants to pursue Dilshad and he is voluntarily moving forward with his desire. Till now from the facts we can presume that Rashid left Dilshad for Shireen. Maybe it was for a better life or because he was truly in love with Shireen, we don't know that, but he did leave Dilshad and his kids. We all make choices everyday and Rashid made his choice too. He chose Shireen. Did Shireen make a choice too? Yes, she did. She made a choice to pursue Rashid knowing that he was married and had a kid( presuming from the story synopsis in Zee tv).
Did she think about Asad? He was a child when his farther abandoned him and his mother? That has to be the most traumatic experience of his life.
It has been long 17 yrs and now Rashid wants to pursue Dilshad...he is going behind Shireen's back and in the process is been disloyal to her. A woman doesn't deserve this and I would have liked to feel sorry for Shireen but I don't .
I cannot feel sorry because Shireen hasn't ever felt sorry or guilty for Dilshad , Asad or Najma.
She is portrayed as a naive and gullible woman...but this very naive woman hasn't ever thought about what Dilshad must have gone through. It wasn't Asad's or Najma's fault...was it?
As a viewer all my love and sympathy right now is for Dilshad. She is the epitome of grace and dignity.i hope she stays away from Rashid because he doesn't deserve her.
But isn't that what naive people do - not think? That's what makes them naive and gullible. And looking at the way Razia manipulates her its easy to see why she doesn't think...Razia probably poisoned her mind in the very beginning so she doesn't even care to think about Dilshad & co. I think Shireen did feel a bit sorry for Asad, Najma - as children, especially in the first week or so episodes.
A naive person wouldn't knowingly ever pursue a married man...I don't think Razia would knowingly want Shireen to pursue a married married. I have a feeling that on the insistence of Shireen...razia's husband asked Rahid to make a choice. Mamujaan seems very orthodox and I don't know whether Bhopal has a different Muslim marriage law where you can have more than one marriage.
One of my very good friend is an American Muslim and after watching QH I had a talk with her...she specifically said that Islam permits a second marriage only if the previous wife is barren and the man obliges to give equal status and wealth to the respective wives. There cannot be any kind of partiality. My friend believes that no man can give two women the equal status and hence indirectly Islam doesn't encourage a second marriage.
Now in this case Rashid completely abondened Dishad and her kids which is unacceptable and Shireen was fine with it.
That's pretty cool because I'm an American Muslim too :) I actually went to an Islamic school for 14 years.
Islam does permit a second marriage if the previous wife is barren, but also if its a time of war and there are alot of widows/orphans. Also, since Islam has 4 different schools of thought - meaning for different types of scholarly thinking that interpret the Quran and Prophet's sayings differently, some of the schools of thoughts allow a man to make a 2nd marriage (or 3rd..or 4th) if he deeply gravely fears that if he doesn't, he'll commit adultery (because that's unacceptable in Islam, as it is anywhere).
So perhaps she comes from a different school of thought?
Your friend is right in that status and wealth should be equal to each wife (but jsut to clear up issues, that does NOT mean that equal amount of children or equal amount of love in the heart, because thats simply not always possible). And Islam does indirectly not encourage a second marriage to everyone, there's a bunch of evidence pointing to that. So in that sense, she's spot on :)
We don't know if Shireen was fond of it. We still have to uncover the murky past. All we do know is that Rashid left Dilshad for Shireen, whether she had a hand in it or not, whether he was forced or not. And of course abandoning your kids and wife is unacceptable, which is why I hold Rashid mainly responsible.
And in India, there are religious codes in its secular law, meaning Muslims can marry more than one, but other religions, like Hindus, can't. Thats why Dharmendra and Hema Malini had to sneakily get married like that (which totally wasn't cool, btw).