Ah, the age old quandary! The struggle, which seems to have a beginning at the dawn of man. Everyone tries to find their way around it, but find themselves caught in the middle. Goes by many names, such as generation gap. Yes we are talking about upbringing, Parvarrish, both the title and the theme of the show.
"Every generation imagines itself to be more intelligent than the one that went before it, and wiser than the one that comes after it."
The whole problem can be summed up in the comment above. Everybody has a thought process which molds up in beliefs and opinions. But, surprise surprise, there are 7 billion people out there. So yeah, common sense dictates, there will be variation in thoughts. And this variance, which seems good amongst friends, takes the form of struggle between generations. We have this dire need to be right. First the generation thinks it is smarter than parents and when they become parents, now they think they know better because they are older. But we are told that when you are kid you are wrong, but when the same kid turns into a parent one day, he becomes right. There is just one fault with the logic, the person is the same. So, what is being actually said that he is both right and wrong. Things get contradictory and the statement falls down.
Now, coming to Sweety. Her behavior does not exactly match her name. We are shown a controlling and dominating mother. She wants the good of her children, rather what she thinks is her good for children, which is true most of the times but not always. But her means are, let's just say, not always satisfactory. So, do the ends justify the means? I think not.
So, the kids, like every other kids out there, wants her to loosen up a little. Be a little more liberal, be more cool. A little less nagging here, some small freedom there. A good request, which could have proved beneficial for the whole family. But does Sweety behave like a mature adult and tries to improve herself? No. She is blind with the bias that she is right and in fact starts childish plans to teach the family a lesson.
She thinks eating junk food daily is cool? No mam, it isn't. Following nutrition is cool. Sometimes, cheat meals are allowed so that a person doesn't fall back from their diet, but planning is necessary. So earlier, she never let them eat anything from outside without scolding or taunting. And now, she is following the other extreme, always eating outside. She could have taken the middle ground, and could have decided a day every fortnight when they could have satisfied their taste buds, but no. Why behave like an adult when you can teach your family a lesson?
She thinks expensive shopping is cool. Sorry to disappoint Sweety, but again not true. A middle class person can be cool. Coolness is a part of personality. You could have millions of dollars, but a uncool person will still remain uncool. Mandira's husband is much richer than Lucky, she can afford that much shopping. While lucky cannot. So, having expensive clothing does not make you cool, coolness doesn't depend on your economic status. But no. Why think when you can just burn through savings for show off to teach the family a lesson?
Sweety thinks not caring is cool. Again, breaking news, it isn't. Being cool is keeping tab on children without constant nagging. Giving them advice, guidance. Listening to their problems, and yeah, contrary to the popular belief, kids too have a life and problems, and yes they are important too. Then solving their problems, correcting them if you think they are doing wrong. Then they can be left to decide, with the help of your opinions and their own. But no. Who needs to behave maturely? Either she will take each and every decision of the kids or will just remain aloof. Why try middle ground, it just doesn't cut it for her. After all she has to teach the family a lesson? What was the lesson by the way? Does Sweety even remember it, or has it just become some ego-stroking match?
So, the point of of it all is that people are not perfect. And the last time I checked, parents are people too. So, being adults, they should be the first one to own up their mistakes and try to improve, so that kids can learn from that. Same thing was asked of Sweety, to let go of her want to be in control always, and give the kids space. But the lady jumped from Listen-to-me-because-you-know-nothing end to the other I-don't-care-what-happens-to-you-because-I-am-so-cool end. Not cool Sweety, definitely not cool. And even now, she doesn't understand the problem nor wants to rectify it, but is practically blackmailing the family into wanting the old Sweety back, so that she could say, "I told you so." Well, guess what, everyone will prefer a caring mother to an aloof mother. But a cool mother would be even better. And no, she is not cool currently. She doesn't even understand what being cool means. She will feel a winner by the end, while she would be the loser without even realizing.
So, an adult mother, who instead of presenting an example before kids, is trying childish plans to make her family beg her to return to old avatar, so that her ego, which says she is perfect, is soothed. So, my sincere request to you Sweety, please grow up.
Edited by Freethinker112 - 29 November 2012 at 11:04am