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Posted: 26 November 2012 at 7:18am | IP Logged
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Posted: 26 November 2012 at 7:20am | IP Logged
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Posted: 26 November 2012 at 7:28am | IP Logged
Originally posted by CutielovesChocs

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Woah, awesome topic Khushi, for starters! LOL  Thank you LOL 

 And friendship according to me, is the relationship that is the most beautiful of them all. After all, friends are the family we get to choose for ourselves. Isn't it? I value friendship and friends more than anything else. So, quite obviously, trust is an element that is crucial. Trust is always important, be it in any relationship. Correct! A family one can choose and is't already mapped out for them. With them, they can be themselves and it all begins with trust.. 

It is something that takes ages to build and a second to break. Once broken, it takes ages once more, to build it. But you're right. It's not the same; it never will be. I'm a person who doesn't forgive easily. And that's my defense mechanism against being hurt. Once someone breaks my trust, it's very hard for me to accept the person for what they used to be. Yeah, they might not have meant it and yeah, it might have been a mistake but it takes extremely long for someone to realise that. And even when they have, it isn't easy to wipe off the memories of the times when you felt that acute stab of pain. You trusted someone and they didn't maintain it like they should have. Agreed. Once you're hurt, you're hurt. I know I'm the kind of person who never forgives, let alone taking time to forgive. I've had some people in my choti si life till now that I haven't forgiven and I have no regrets for it. For me, it's like you break my trust, you can go to dot dot dot Embarrassed I have better people in life ROFL Like I believe, better remember whom you're friends with before you decide to make them your enemy LOL

People choose their friends for various reasons; loneliness, compatibility, to chill out, to name a few. I've always gone by the quote: 'People are there in your life for a reason, season or a lifetime'. And that's what I choose to believe. Some people, no matter how close they are, decide to enter your life, serve their purpose and walk out. Others, choose to stay for quite some time, ensuring that their time and reason in your life has been served. And there are only a few chosen ones, who stay for a lifetime. And yes the people in the last category may screw you up. How much I believe that quote myself! Those who walk out were never meant to be in the first place. Even some stay for lifetime and can screw you up, like you said, but at times, that's how you like it, right? 

It's really up to you. Whether you decide to give chances, no matter how bleak the situation might seem. No matter how broken you are. Trust is something that CAN be regained, although it might take a while. But you need to make an exception for those special ones who make your life worthwhile, who make you feel as if everything will be okay. Can be regained? I'd disagree due to my own personal experiences. Maybe I cover up after my trust is broken and my I go cold hearted towards the person and refuse to listen to anything and anyone. Maybe that's why. But I never build trust back once it's broken. What's the guarantee it won't be broken again?

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Posted: 26 November 2012 at 7:37am | IP Logged
Trust can't be regained by everyone, mind you. 

I'm a total bitch to some people. I've shut them out of my life and I have NO regrets either. But then there are a few others I'd probably do anything for. We've had out fair share of ups and downs. I've had my flaws and they have had theirs. I've hurt them, they've hurt me. However, it depends on YOU. You need to prioritise. You need to realise what different people mean to you. 

That's what I meant by regaining trust. Because there are certain people with whom I have an amazing bond. I don't think anything can break it. Sure, there are a LOT of tugs but no breakages. We won't let it happen! *touch wood* Embarrassed-

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Posted: 26 November 2012 at 7:38am | IP Logged
 Khushi  I agree..
And didnt we just speak about this a few days back...

And CutielovesChocos well said girl I agree to each and evey word you said...

Can I just take a print of your words to show it to few people..

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Posted: 26 November 2012 at 12:33pm | IP Logged
Awesum topic. :)
Friendship for me is quite a complicated thing. I do not make friends easily. Sure i talk to a lot of people but i am extremely extremely careful in letting people close to me and for me trusting someone is very difficult (okay i have trust issues :) ). Trust and respect are the two very foundations of any relationship be it a friendship or a romantic relationship. If their is no trust in the friendship i dont think it can even be termed as friendship. A friend is a person who is supossed to have your back all the time, a person with whom you share all your secerts and innermost thoughts with. If u dont trust a person to share a part of your life with them, then how can they be called your friend?
For me its either black or white. I dont do grey. I am extremely choosy in making friends but when i do consider someone my friend, i give my 100% to the relationship. If someone breaks my trust sure it would be very very hurtful to me but if the person in question is genuienly sorry i would forgive them. Its very difficult for me to stop caring about someone who i let in my life. I forgive easily and am not a type of person to hold grudges against anybody no matter how badly they have hurt me. So, even if a person would break my trust i would give the friendship a second chance mostly because its impossiable for me to shut out a person who was an important part of my life. I firmly believe in have a few good friends then having a lot of fake friends. I dont have a lot of friends but the ones i have are very very close to my heart. :)


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Posted: 27 November 2012 at 12:53pm | IP Logged
Hey Khushi awesome topic... Well here i go...

For a person like me who believes that friendship is the most beautiful relationship anyone can gain, trust is really important!! If i have to make friends i will have to trust them!! Trust for me is the basic foundation for any relationship!! 

Friendship is like a chinese cup- costly,rich and rare. Once broken it can't be mended and if it can be mended the crack still remains!!! It is easy to make friends but difficult to trust them!! Trust should not be misused by anyone!! It can greatly affect the person concerned!! So for me trust and friendship go hand in hand and are highly dependent on each other!! without one of these existence of the other is next to impossible!!! I am friendly to everyone but it takes a lot for me to trust them!!! 

Lizzie


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Posted: 27 November 2012 at 2:25pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by CutielovesChocs

Trust can't be regained by everyone, mind you. 

I'm a total bitch to some people Really? abse tere PMs ignore karne honge Dead. I've shut them out of my life and I have NO regrets either. But then there are a few others I'd probably do anything for like, writing an OS to make them feel better Blushing. We've had out fair share of ups and downs. I've had my flaws and they have had theirs. I've hurt them, they've hurt me. However, it depends on YOU. You need to prioritise. You need to realise what different people mean to you I'll get to this later Broken Heart 

That's what I meant by regaining trust. Because there are certain people with whom I have an amazing bond. I don't think anything can break it. Sure, there are a LOT of tugs but no breakages. We won't let it happen me?? Day Dreaming! *touch wood* Embarrassed-


Oh and main topic ko I'll reply soon Big smile

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