Originally posted by UMDU
JAM, I would like to put across a few points here. While you have exploitation of woman in traditional households I am now increasingly coming across women in urban areas who are well educated doing very well financially and status wise, get married but after even 10 years are unwilling to start a family as they are climbing up the professional ladder and do not want a child to stop the climb. My aunt 's daughter who is the VP in Citibank had a love marriage with a boy whom she had known from class 9th. Both did their engineering and than went to US to do MBA and than got married at the age of 26..She is now 38 and refuses to start her family.Last week I got to know they have filed for divorce.My aunt is shattered as this girl is her only child.All their attempts to make her understand have fallen into deaf years. A girl who knew her husband for 12 years before marrying him could not make the marriage work.
Sorry to interject but maybe your niece saw the divorce coming and did not want to bring kids into the picture complicating things further. If one is already going through an unhappy marriage, bringing kids into the picture is not such a good idea. I personally have a different view. I think kids actually are a good buffer and make parents think twice before uttering the D word. And Umaji, thanks for writing you POV on Sooraj. I don't have to write one now :-) I started putting down thoughts for a new thread "Sooraj is an idealist who thinks with his heart and not with his mind" but I am abandoning that one now. I think we all know that the strings are in the CVs hands. We are all trying to read too much into these characters. In the end all of us want SurYa moments. I for one sure do. Sorry I blabber a lot and never even introduced myself properly. Because of the nature of the work I do, I can't. But in short: I met my husband and married him here in the US. One month after marriage, I started my grad school, had my daughter in 2nd yr of grad school, and took 7 yrs to finish my Ph.D. Yes, I did dedicate my dissertation to my husband. We have a daughter, a son, and a dog. So that was some tough thing to do but certainly doable. If I can, anyone can !! Is my husband a Sooraj? Hell NO. Am I a Sandhya? Hell NO. We are as perfect or as imperfect humans can be. If I have a magic wand, I'd use it in a heartbeat to convert my husband into a Sooraj :-)