Fantastic post JAM and wonderful replies by all.
Both men and women tend to take advantage of the weaker (submissive) counterparts. If wives tend to be weaker, husbands have the higher hand and when husbands try to be more understanding and supportive, wives too misuse it. I find SurYa to have equal respect and understanding with each other. The fact that Bhabho wants Sandhya to sacrifice her dreams for the sake of her virtual family unity and Sandhya's willingness to do so makes us to feel for Sandy more.
Suraj has been practical in all other issues but in education track, he is behaving immature and not finding a practical solution. It is good that he is determined to have Sandhya pursue her dream at any cost but not considering that the best solution is to convince Bhabho first. It would be practical if he had taken Bhabho's permission though it might take him some more time, let this academic year pass, let Bhabho get some more exposure to educated people like the DSP and his wife who can advise Bhabho, etc. The present approach of night college seems illogical, impractical and again, a deja vu Rathi aangan drama awaits us with same insults hurled by the siblings, Bhabhasa standing like a statue in shock, Bhabho ranting and answerless SurYa.
Given the fact that women are more submissive and sacrificing, they should themselves understand their value and set a limit and explain the men, whether it is husband, father, brother or son. Sacrificing at all stages will only encourage them to continue with their current behavior.
Recently, I attended my cousin's marriage and my cousin sister could not attend it though she wanted to and was making calls all along to join us somehow but our jiju didn't allow her and this has been the case since her marriage 30 years ago. She has been caring for her in-laws, husband, sons and now daughter-in-laws. She could have at least asked one of her sons to attend the marriage on her behalf but she does not want them to take leave from office. Even if she dies, no one is going to understand her. We have told her to speak up and she does not as she is scared she has no place to go (she is the only child) and her father is no more. We are even angry on her for not taking care of our aunt who is living alone in the village.