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Sandhya should lend a hand in convincing Bhabo :-)

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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 8:00am | IP Logged
So many posts on Friday's episode and rightly so, because we got to witness a clash of ideologies between Bhabo and Suraj, at last. Bhabo couldn't believe that her sweet son, Suraj could go against her orders or leave the responsibility cum bondage chain which she sweetly handed over to him when she sent Suraj with Chavi instead of Mohit deliberately.

But a fatal mistake by Bhabo gave Suraj much needed details about the last date of admission and as a result, he came to Pushkar rushing and perfectly at the right time to listen to the all important conversation between Bhabo and Sandhya. To be able to listen to the conversation was very much vital for him, otherwise he would have been left wondering as to what factor is forcing Sandhya to leave her dreams so suddenly.

Of course, Sandhya is trying to fulfill the dream of Bhabo but she is slowly waking up to the fact that it is really a tough job to fit into the big shoe of an ideal housewife the way Bhabo wants, Already, te teacher of sewing school lambasted Sandhya as well as Bhabo in front of others and Bhabo had to set aside her ego and ask for forgiveness, that is so unlikely of her stature.

I really want Sandhya to tell Bhabo that try as hard as she could, she will not be able to fulfill her wishes and rather than doing something without the knowledge of Bhabo which will hurt her more and she will feel like she had been cheated (in future episodes). And like many others, I want a heart-to-heart conversation between SurYa, it is high time we get a dedicated SurYa episode. Embarrassed

On behalf of Sandhya, I am singing the following lines. LOL Wink
I'm tired of being what you want me to be
Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface
Don't know what you're expecting of me
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes

(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you


Sandhya is really getting herself "caught in the undertow" meaning she doesn't want to walk into the shoes as per Bhabo's wish (from her heart) but she cannot tell her that as she doesn't want to disappoint her. Ouch Ouch

i think this song is about a parent that wants to bring the best out of his son and wants him to follow his footsteps and fulfill the desires the father/mother wasn't able to when they were kids. the child, however feels like they're pressuring him, trying to make him be something he's not and he's breaking under the pressure because his parent cant be satisfied and the worst is, its not the child's wish to do what his parent wants him to but he cant help himself.

'I cant feel you there' - he feels as though his parent has changed to the negative, they're not like they used to be, they're obsessed with his child succeeding and living the parent's dream

'But I know You were just like me With someone disappointed in you' - the child knows their parent has experienced the same and doesn't know how to treat him different because it's all the parent's ever known.


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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 8:16am | IP Logged
Saibal what a beautiful post on the effect a child/person has when there are expectations and dreams to live upto that are not your own.

The pressures that parents put on a child with forcing their own dreams on them is a good analogy you have used in the case of Bhabho/Sandhya situation.  

The song
 I'm tired of being what you want me to be
Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface
Don't know what you're expecting of me
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes

(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you

   
Is so appropriate to Sandy's situation currently and agree with what you have mentioned in your post.   I have made a similar post in the thread I created but it is more specific to the Friday epi...  but it does cover the thoughts that Sandy must be going through which will lead her to accept who she really is and not try to be what Bhabho wants her to be...

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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 8:43am | IP Logged
@ Juna--> Thanks a lot for your feedback and appreciation. Yup, Sandhya is trying to be what she actually isn't made for, and the repercussions are already felt by Bhabo. I think Suraj will rescue her, will have to wait and watch.

Song isn't getting played, till I find out good links, this is the full lyrics of the song.

"Numb"

I'm tired of being what you want me to be
Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface
Don't know what you're expecting of me
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes
(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you
(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)

[Chorus:]
I've become so numb, I can't feel you there
Become so tired, so much more aware
I'm becoming this, all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you

Can't you see that you're smothering me,
Holding too tightly, afraid to lose control?
'Cause everything that you thought I would be
Has fallen apart right in front of you.
(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you.
(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
And every second I waste is more than I can take.

[Chorus:]
I've become so numb, I can't feel you there,
Become so tired, so much more aware
I'm becoming this, all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you.

And I know
I may end up failing too.
But I know
You were just like me with someone disappointed in you.

[Chorus:]
I've become so numb, I can't feel you there,
Become so tired, so much more aware.
I'm becoming this, all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you.

[Chorus:]
I've become so numb, I can't feel you there.
(I'm tired of being what you want me to be)
I've become so numb, I can't feel you there.
(I'm tired of being what you want me to be)



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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 9:41am | IP Logged
good noteful post...and while reading it helps me to knw more...

sandhya position suits the song very well...

loved the song and its description...

ur take on future episode is good and expecting that...

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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 9:56am | IP Logged
Saibal...A hand only!Shocked
The full Sandy should be there to march into ''Mission Bhabo ko manao!''LOL
Bhabo na maaney phir bhi aage badte jao!Approve
Come on jawan...Alpha bravo charlie...

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Hum chalte hain jab aise toh dil dushman ke hilte hain'' Approve

Sorry for being funny in this serious post!Embarrassed
Beautifully written Bhai, That song is so apt for your Sandy!



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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 10:17am | IP Logged
Nice lyrics Saibal.
 
I hope SurYa try to convince Bhabho but guess the precap does not allow them to do.

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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 11:49am | IP Logged
Saibal...!!! Linking Park..!!!!!!!!!!!! Day Dreaming Day Dreaming Day Dreaming Day Dreaming Day Dreaming
One of my fav song...!!! Right song for Sandy's situation...!!! But for now I am just enjoying the song...!!! Wink
Thanks 4 the song dear...!!!!Hug

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Posted: 11 November 2012 at 1:33pm | IP Logged
Very nice lyrics and a  wonderful post. The problem in India is parents continue to support their children right into the 20s unlike the west  where  they are allowed to work and earn their pocket money and many times finance their under graduate studies. In India most children depend on their parents for financial support till they get employed and children are not allowed to work as the concept of dignity of labour does not exist in this sub continent. Nobody in India from a middle class back ground will allow their children to wash dishes in a hotel or become a cashier at a mall while studying. They will always say beta padhne ki umar hai padho ,paise ki chinta mat karo hum dekh lenge. Since they are financing the education the parents feel they have a right to decide what the child should become. Had you allowed the child financial independence he would be able to assert himself. Here the child carries the moral burden that his parents are doing so much for him that he should not hurt them.
             In DABH context Sandy's silence is only due to her love for Suraj. Forget Sandhya nobody can lend a hand in  convincing  Bhabo. She is beyond reason.. As far as  Suraj is concerned he is  the bread winner. However he loves his mother blindly and is afraid to hurt her as she has seen difficult days in the past. He wants to always keep her happy. If he openly revolts she may do bhook hadtal to pressurise Suraj as a last resort. So he is trying to put forward his case gently so that she does not resort to extreme dramas to prove her point. However from the precap it is clear she does not bend so the secret night college idea. Yes a heart to heart talk between Suraj and Sandhya will help.  In India things whether in urban or rural areas are not likely to change unless you allow your children to gain financial independence at an earlier age and the parents become enlightened enough to  allow their children to opt for not so safe subjects and take a risk.


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