Originally posted by: Gurtiluv
I have a question for everyone here. We have been discussing physical attraction lately. So I was wondering how would you feel if the consumation came before a confession or even realization of love. Wouldn't it be progressive? I remember having this discussion with my friends from the Punar Vivah forum because the point of that show was to show realistic relationships and we discussed howler couples do consummate before completely falling in love. Consider historically most Indian couples don't even no each other before getting married than how do they make babies? We discussed how on Indian television consummation has been shown to the ultimate result of love as before love Indian leads are shown to be asexual beings but in reality physical relations can be a part of the process. It ended up happening in Punar Vivah and caused confusion between the leads since one of them still thought he loved his exwife and felt guilty for betraying her. Would you guys like to see something similar in Madhubala? I initially felt no in Punar Vivah but than I thought the way it was shown was more realistic than most other Indian television shows. My mom agreed with me strangely enough.
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Physical attraction and desire aid love making and is one of factors responsible for knowing true love. Once desire is consumed and satisfied, all that the individuals are left with is emotional attraction and dependence. If one is pleased on physical level, couple might influence each other to support each other other in functional expressions of their relationship outside the bedroom,,,as in interaction with rest of house-hold. If one is not pleased at physical level, no matter how good the relationship is outside bedroom, the stiffness within the bedroom makes the night unbearable. Its learning all the way, influence all the way. In arranged marriages, men and women have to deal with physical aspect before they can find love. TV nowadays is ruining the reality checks that we grow up with. If I had children, adolescents, honestly as a mother, I would not allow my children (sons and daughters) to watch these kind of regressive soaps. If they would see it anyways, I would make it a point to tell my children that what they see on TV is not real and what they can expect. Because I went through a turmoil in my arranged marriage, I wouldn't want my children to be that naive...
Its very unnatural the way TV shows that platonic love should happen and then physical love is permissible. Its actually the other way round, for both married and unmarried couples. While in case of married couples, they have the permit to indulge in love making as the Marriage ceremonies have specially poojas around consummation that accept it as another MUST ritual in marriage. The unmarried ones have to be careful to control their desires, but surely we all saw in films and also know in reality that some level of physical intimacy is shared.
And I am all for this. Therefore, each time RK and MB interact, I am distinctly studying for it. Because of limitations of Indian TV or prevailing formulas to present soap drama, the writers may not break away from TV soap conventions, but they can at least show us currents that make us identify with reality.
In Punar Vivah. what they showed thru that consummation was natural, bound to happen, when Aarti was all ripe to fall into that state. But where they stuck to TV convention is making a baby also...just in one attempt. Now that is quite far-fetched, but just like films. Ek attempt mein unleash the days of drama...
I liked physical attraction etched very nicely in Balika Vadhu between Anandi and Jagayya, when they are adults enough and Jagya is high on his harmones and ready to explore that part with his wife. It was ULTIMATE REALITY on TV there. But again TV convention had to ruin that. Very plausibly the elders notice what is going between the two youngsters minds and take action. But still on TV, best kind to get that footage. Eventually the couple ends up having their intimate moments and scars the couple the way each marks that relationship as it could be deemed. For Jagya it was pleasing, love felt and yet a turmoil for him outside the bedroom as Anandi doesn't seem fit as a social partner. For Anandi, it becomes her everything, so much that it keeps her bound to Jagya even when Jagya leaves her.
Physical relation need not cement two individuals, but strangely enough, sufficient chemistry at physical level is enough to bind individuals into coming to each other, reckon either of them as a force that cannot be ignored.
In MEIEJ, also writers have kept true to this element and are playing with that a lot...like the waist holding drama, admiring bare back scenes, massage drama and now seduction imaginations...for the man it abundantly being showed...and the woman has all along responded in exactly the same manner as she is supposed to feel, knowing it, getting uncomfortable, shit-scared and nowadays enjoying little by little. Alas we all, Bittujis and all kinds of interruptions will be there. 😳
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