but u cant blame only man for gender diffrance issue bcs i saw many women also doing this with other woman ...i mean people think that only men ki thinking asi hoti hai but mainey kayi ladkio ko dusri ladkoi pe comment kartey dekha jinkey acco unka drssing style kesa hona chahiye , bolna chaahiye , with their husband kese behave karna chahiye ...most of the time women asey points deti hai even on boyfriends issue also jo bahot stereotype hotey hain but when khud pe baat aati hai to same girls ke saarey rule change ho jaatey hai , so i can see clearly doublestandard here girls ki side se bhiOriginally posted by: return_to_hades
@Cruiser
I have to say I am surprised and actually quite disappointed that you stooped low into questioning "likes" and the age old "women have it in for men" argument. Of all the people on IF, I really didn't expect this from you. I used to think you were amidst the mature and reasonable guys.
Now I have not been in other threads, but in this specific thread I do have some problems with your line of reasoning. I definitely don't think you are saying the same thing as I did. There is a difference between "men have expectations too, deal with it" and "men have expectations too, and some of those are unfair as well". Now perhaps you don't mean to frame it as "deal with it" but it comes across that way. You also seem to be focusing on the "words" saying you have been called "asheel" as well. But you appear to miss the point that the point is not about Sapna being called "asheel" or lacking "lajja". The point is that her criticism was framed around her being a woman.
That being said I do agree that sometimes women get a bit too passionate and carried away in gender equality debates. It is not that we are biased against men, dislike men or want some sort of vengeance. It is difficult being a woman, especially an Indian (desi) woman. There are a lot of frustrations, desperations and hurt emotions. I won't go into details. But the point is, you don't have to agree with us or our perspectives, but a little bit of empathy can go a very long way. And yes, perhaps we can do more to try and understand the male point of view. But cribbing and complaining really is not the way. Unless you are conspiring to get back at women for all the time we crib and whine and nag. 😛
Yes, the last sentence was a gender stereotype against women. 😆
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