Originally posted by: -Chandramukhi-
I can see where you were headed with Dexy, so I will put in my 2 cents.
Your post is basically saying that such stereotypes exist and even we can't get out of it. I agree and even we might get tangled with such stereotypes. But that doesn't mean we can't question it or we can't bring in the change.
Your example included boys = players and girls = wh**e for sleeping around. This might happen time to time with many of us. But that doesn't mean it is the right way to look at it, now does it. When we come across something we don't agree with, wouldn't we try and bring in the change to accommodate our views.
And Aurat = Lajja is demeaning especially when it is used in the context of criticizing a girl for being loud or potty mouth. I believe criticism can be done without having to rely on gender. Wrongs actions are worth condemning whether it is a girl or a guy and it shouldn't be done for the sake of encouraging the perception of a woman in any society. This is the general picture of a society that girls shouldn't rely on shouting or foul language because they should be modest while guys do not get looked down on when they get aggressive or rely on foul language. Again there are exceptions. but this is the general idea. And that is objection I have, why should a girl behave the way society wants her to. Let the girl decide for herself what is right or wrong and how she wants to act.
That's exactly what I'm saying. I don't agree with it and I don't disagree with it. What I do disagree with is calling it regressive thinking. I don't believe its thinking, per say, that can be changed. I believe its our natural instincts, our genetic makeup, our primitive ways. The man was the protector, the hunter, the food provider and has always been protective about his wife/daughters etc.
I'm all for woman equality but its also true that men and women are different in so many ways from our outer appearances all the way down to the XY chromosomes.
Let a man be strong, let a woman be beautiful...they're only compliments, just like lajja, why take offense?
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