Posted: 09 November 2012 at 9:06am | IP Logged
I'm glad to see the changes happening in India because I feel sometimes it's too tight there. When my parents were growing up, I think the only careers parents found logical were being a doctor, an engineer. or something in business. Unfortunately, what's happening now is that there too many of them and not enough jobs. I'm glad there's external support out there for people wanting to pursue different career paths. I just wonder who will be there for the child for the internal support. I know that even here there's nothing available to change a parent's narrow mind set about what they feel their child should be when they grow up.
There's a disgusting show here called Toddlers and Tiaras. It's about these poor little girls who are around ages 4-7 who are participating in beauty pageants. It's a competition where small girls are wearing very frilly and uncomfortable dress and wearing layers of makeup while performing different acts in front of judges in order to win the title of Pageant Queen. It's different if it's an adult doing this, but these are small children who mostly are forced by their mothers to participate. The children say things about loving it, but it's also what they are conditioned to believe. I couldn't imagine a 4 year old saying on her own that she wants to be a Pageant Queen. I can believe she might enjoy the fun costumes and to wear some makeup, but most children are curious about those things. The competition itself though is really intense, and I feel it's ruining the child's innocence. These girls talk like adults and say catty comments when they are being interviewed. It's not normal to hear children talk like that. Also, they child gets so overworked because they have to practice and learn so many complicated dances and songs for the pageant.
I do agree that reality platforms for small children are really dangerous if parents are not giving the child the right guidance. Unfortunately, some parents try to push their failed dreams onto their children. They keep forcing them to practice and do not let the child quit. Even when the child is frustrated and crying. It's not just in the case of acting or singing, it can be any career path. That's why sometimes children grow up their whole lives thinking they "love" a certain career path idea, only to later realize that it's not their idea but their parent's.
I feel like we just need to let kids be kids. Let let fall down, get hurt, and explore the world. Parents should be guide for their children, but they should not dictate to the child how they should live. Especially once the child is in college and trying figure out their life, parents then need to take the role of a support system and guide them from behind. The child should feel like no matter what, my parents have my back, and they are someone who I can turn to for advice when needed. They love me regardless of what I choose. I feel some parents fail to make their child feel that even though they do love their children greatly.
I'm sorry, I'm leaving you these novels. Your topic's about something else, and I'm going in a different direction.
Edited by tulipbaby53 - 09 November 2012 at 9:15am