I am sorry to hear about your situation.
Physical abuse from a parent is a very serious issue, I think you should go straight to the cops! But please make sure there is someone elder you could talk to, like a relative/prof at school or college or a friend's parent, someone who could support you in case things turn ugly once you approach the authorities! If there is no one like that, then I am not sure what else you could do .. just hang in there and be strong!
It's just pathetic the way things work with Indian families .. that you are not allowed to talk about what happened to you, because it will bring shame to your family .. why do people put society over their own happiness! Yes, its parampara .. family is the unit of society .. and so one family's shame will put the society to shame.. but that was the time women had to jump into the fire when their husbands died! Sure, talking about rape/abuse could lead to your family being ostracized by some relatives and friends, but there might still be those sincere ones who just care about you.. maybe its enough to have them in your life than the ones who bicker about everything you do!
As for not telling a guy about what your parents did to you is wrong advice! In fact I think you should never keep any secrets from someone you are going to marry, if they truly love you, they will help you get over the horrors of what you went through instead of condemning you based on that!
Emotional abuse can definitely harm you especially when you are a kid .. study/work hard and get into a school far far away from home!
@Arti, about what you said about waxing/threading .. I was shocked to hear about someone I knew who took her 10 year old daughter for facials, that too the ones that make you fair, 'coz she was a bit dark! I have so many more examples of parents pushing their wishes on their kids. . the ones that force their kids to go to IIT coaching / dance /music classes even though their kids have no interest in them! I remember getting into a discussion with someone regarding this .. and we finally concluded that even if the initial step is taken by the parent, parents should let the child make the final decision about whether they want to do something or not!
Edited by boreddamsel - 12 April 2013 at 9:38pm