Originally posted by tulipbaby53
Even in my family though, a Hindu being with a Muslim is still considered "bad". I don't know why though. I told my mom once how I was dating a Muslim, and she had a fit. I didn't see what I was doing wrong, but she did not like it at all. Even my family in India do not like Muslims at all. I know there's frictions between the people, but I didn't think that the thinking would carry here to America too.
This is troubling. lol. Maybe you over stated the problem. lol. Anyway I appreciate your honesty.
First let me accept that this is true among many Muslims as well i.e. they look down at Hindus. It is not religion related but just due to past experiences perhaps. I am therefore not picking on Hindus/your family for behaving in such manner. Now to my main point.
My point is that while this is one extreme however we should not use such extremist mindest and then over correct ourselves so that we end up at the other extreme. That is what I am noticing here with criticism of people back in sub-continent.
Each individual has right to date/marry/like/love/interact/befriend/romance/dance/take a chance with anyone they want as long as it is not on gun point i.e. with mutual agreement. lol. However this does not mean we start demeaning all those who prefer doing all that among their own i.e. people with traits similar to them. It is not always based on hate or dislike of other. The example I will provide is presence of such issues within one religion. Their it is culture based. Even inter-ethnic marriages are an issue in Pakistan and I am sure in India as well. These days its better but I know people are not comfortable outside. Same country, same religion but still issues. Do they hate each other? No.
So lets not over correct. Lets not get over board with praises for west etc. Even here majority is still not what you guys are painting. Maybe on surface they present an act but when push comes to shove they behave in same manner. They vote on racial lines also and present election is clear example.
We should lower our expectation and stop searching for perfection. There is no such thing as integration. There is a false start when we were not made the same lol. Please please do not think I am a negative person by nature. I know love conquers all type posts are more appealing but I am trying to get to an optimal and practical point.
The point is appreciate differences, not judge people if they are uncomfortable outside of their zone but do epect a postive behavior and not hate/dislike and thats enough. There is never going to be a perfect answer. This is what I have as of today i.e. 16th November, 2012. lol.
Edited by King-Anu - 16 November 2012 at 7:20am