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We have a fertility cycle and hormonal changes do affect sex drive. However, we can have sex and enjoy it during all stages of the fertility cycle, even during the period. Similarly, we can have and enjoy sex during gestation as well. I don't think these have anything to do with the evolutionary differences in sex drives.

 

I think you are right with the evolution aspect, but your rationale is a bit off.

 

Many female mammals raise the offspring by themselves or are part of a pack. The reason the female is selective is because that off spring is to be the propagator of the species. She chooses the best possible male so that the offspring has the best possible evolutionary traits of the species. Many mammals fight to be the alpha male an win the privilege of procreating. The alpha male is the strongest and has the best evolutionary traits. So only he gets to propagate the species. An alpha male will mate with all females in a pack. But the beta males may never get the privilege of mating.

 

Emotional attachments, monogamy, marriages, relationships are more social human traits and don't have much to do with evolutionary biology. Social evolution of species is a different subject matter, separate from the biology and nature of species.

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Do men think of sex while they're on the shitpot?

Do men think of sex when they hug their mother?

Do men think of sex when they're with their children?

Do men think of sex when they find out they have cancer?

Do men think of sex when they play with their dog?

Do men think of sex when they play with their cat?(JOKE, men love dogs, not sissy cats! DOGS RULE YEAAH)

If the answer to any of the above is no, then this debate was founded on an incorrect statement.

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so their families are feed by your Swiss account ? will you say the same for the men in your family ?
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so their families are feed by your Swiss account ? will you say the same for the men in your family ?


I doubt anyone can think about sex while reading this post. A good amount of time has to be spent pondering what it is about and what the point exactly is. LOL


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Originally posted by Freethinker112

Originally posted by Beyond_the_Veil



What do you mean by it's evolutionary? Do you mean to say that, since it's survival of the fittest, men who were more lust-driven and women who were more emotional in their sexual behavior/attraction survived (but why...?), and passed such genetic traits to their offspring? Or that men who were less lusty produced less offspring as they had less sexual contacts, and that women who were more lusty but less nurturing also reared less offspring, meaning their genetic trait was not passed down as much as it is the other way round? Is it what you are attempting to say.

I kinda feel lost when people say it's all evolutionary. Confused Do all environmentally favorable traits always triumph due to natural selection? Hope you will explain. Embarrassed

interesting question. I am not well versed enough in evolution to answer the why. But, here is my take.

Men don't have a fertility cycle. We can have sex frequently and are capable of ejaculating sperm everytime. And we don't need to be a part of gestation. So, we can have sex always and all is good. So maybe that's the reason we are always wanting to have sex.

Women on the other hand have a fertility cycle. And they are the ones who have to go through a tough period of 9 months. A pregnant woman needs support during pregnancy. She needs someone to protect the children. Maybe that's the reason why women are more selective and desire emotional connection. So that they know for sure that the man will support her during pregnancy and after childbirth, and that he just won't leave her after having sex.

That's my opinion on how we have evolved. Maybe there is no reason why. After all we are trying to rationalize what we are now. Maybe it didn't happen for a reason.


If we are taking evolution into consideration here - the explanation is simple. In homo sapiens the culling of the weak seed is not a natural process like those in say deer - in a herd the strongest stags will fight each other and the ultimate winner gets the first dibs so to say. This ensures only the physically strong and capable stags get to mate. Homo sapien females unfortunately do not get to choose - therefore men need to copulate with as many women as possible in order to ensure that there are enough offspring - remember only one in a million sperm is capable of fertilizing the egg.

With women being selective (though socially there doesn't seem any probability of their choices being validated) is a throwback to the animal instinct of selecting partners that could be good providers or protectors of the herd (family-unit).


But evolutionary history has little to do with social jingoism. Fact is that most men use that adage to act like jerks, and society (male-centric ofcourse) permits and propagates that myth. Nor is it laudable that we allow the male of the species to actually gloat about the fact that "they controlled their urges".

Remember when a 4 yr old pees in his or her pants we scold the child - it is about toilet-training. We do not reward the child every time he/she runs to the nearest loo, do we? The same thing goes with using a fork and knife, learning to write, playing with other children - these are all rites of passage and part of raising your children right. The last rite of passage is Puberty and how to handle it. Why is it that we are unforgiving about incontinence and punish it severely but are willing to  ignore inability to control a sexual urge?

Nopes men are not to be pardoned for inability to think of sex all the time nor are they to be praised for controlling their urges - no more than the 10 yr old who is jumping up and down all day long telling you he needs to go to the loo. Both are equally silly and both are simple physical urges. To put it plain and simple men need to realize whether they are limited to an organ that is an adjunct to the rest of the body or are they something more than that.

Perhaps it is time that men decide how they wanted to be treated in an evolving world - as replacement for an inflatable battery-operated doll or as rational contributing members of society; if the latter they have to themselves rise above the myths about male-sexuality and prove it in thoughts, actions and deeds and not hide behind adages

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