Dadisa's mistake .. And Jagya's mistakes.. - Page 5

Originally posted by: prerna4rishav

Okie guys, I am really surprised to see people comparing Jagya-Gauri's nonsense with Dadisa's old crimes .. As a DS fan, I felt of making this thread putting forth my opinion about it.. 😊

First of all, let's have a look into DS's background.. She is portrayed as an old lady ( even pre-leap, she was a Dadi only ) from a rural village .. She had grown up in an environment where women are treated as commodities .. where number of incidents of 'female foeticide' is maximum ( Rajasthan ).. where education hadn't been available for women for AGES.. where the 'sarpanch' of a village makes separate law from actual Indian laws.. and they even refuse to believe the Indian laws if needed.. All they care about is 'social norms' and age-old customs no matter how regressive those are..

Now coming to Dadisa's characterization, she has been born and brought up in such environment.. Her life has been much cruel to her in initial days.. And when she reached her old days, she just returned life what she has got from them.. Agree all her methods, thoughts and everything was wrong.. But that was what her beliefs were.. She didn't do all those to 'hurt' people.. Whatever she does, what-ever, she does that out of STRONG faith in that and with ULTIMATE determination.. Her forcing ANandi to leave studies, not to let her play outside, forcing Gehna for a boy-kid, almost killing Basant's first wife.. and many MANY more.. But nothing came out of any 'personal' revenge.. If so, she would not been THAT dead against Sughna, her own grand-daughter's second marriage .. She even refused to see how happy her grand-daughter can be after her re-marriage.. And all these for what ? Just for the stupid superstitions and beliefs she had been brought up with..

True she became Sarpanch of her village in her end days, but life was not a bed of roses for her too !! She wasnt born with a silver spoon either.. She was in a haveli, where people like Mahabir Singh exist ! Did we all forget about the molestation attempt of that scumbag ? Did we all forget how DS struggled to come out of that haveli with a small kid in her lap ? If we come to think of it, DS got punishment for all her sins MUCH before she had committed those.. Nothing justifies DS's evil acts or the mental torture she had made her family members been through.. But those acts are the reflection of the traumatic period she has faced throughout her life as a woman !

It proves the reason behind forgiving THE Mahabir Singh - the scumbag as well 😊 No one in the world can take his side and justify his male chauvinistic act he did with DS.. But still he was forgiven by one and all.. Why ? Cuz of the similar reason.. These people come from an age where they were TAUGHT to behave this way.. These values were roped in their blood ..

Now at present age, DS and Mahabir Singh are reformed beyond imagination.. They were given a chance to change themselves, and they accepted that oppurtunity with grace.. And here lies the difference between Jagya-Gauri and people like DS and Mahabir Singh etc etc.. Jagya-Gauri are brought up in a much liberal society, age-old norms ( except for BV ) seem to have loosened up a bit.. Women were allowed to go to skool.. They were given a chance to differentiate between Right and Wrong.. And even in such environment, these two people FAILED, absolutely miserably failed to judge what is right and what's wrong.. The misakes they have made, might not seem heavier than those of made by DS and MS, but if you go in depth, you'd see they are indeed much more unpardonable than DS's..

Firstly, Jagya-Gauri manipulated, lied, betrayed .. played with human emotions.. These traits can not be inherited to someone cuz of environment or customs.. These are in genes.. And that can never be changed.. 🥱 Dadisa, no matter how cruel she was, never PLAYED with emotions or manipulated anyone to get her 'selfish' purpose done..

Secondly, Jagya's ego vs. Dadisa's self-esteem.. When DS realized her mistakes, realized how WRONG she was, everytime she personally went and apologized in fronta that person.. She not only repents at her realization, she rectifies those with so much grace that it doesnt look mistakes anymore.. There had been numerous examples of that.. Do I need to provide any ? But we cant say the same about Jagya.. forget about accepting mistakes, when he is reminded of his wrong-doings, all he does is 'Blaming' others.. aquiring some stupid ego ( donno from where he even gets it 🥱 ) and cry and then do NOTHING except having self-pity..

Thirdly, DS might be extremely cruel in her earlier days, but even she did few selfless acts.. She gave a new life to Basant when she could simply leave her at the haveli to rot.. She never ever let Basant feel that he was not her own son.. In fact she adored him more than her own son.. 😊 Which shows that her intentions behind any of her act can not be 'Selfish' and 'hurting family members intentionally'.. By all means, she put her family above everything.. But Jagya-Gauri.. OMG, their family values are just beyond discussion 🤢.. The selfish duo can leave the whole world for each other.. Family comes last in their priority list.. Jagya was as happy as ever before he came to know about Gauri's deeds.. He cares two hoots about his family.. And this thing you can not change with time either..

All I would say is, DS's mistakes can not even be compared with Jagya-Gauri's ones.. Dadisa's mistakes were circumstances-driven.. JaGa's ones are intentional and selfish.. DS thought by doing those cruel acts she is taking care of her family.. no matter how wrong she was, her motive was well-being of her family.. But JaGa doesnt have any values inside them.. They are just plain selfish, mean and betrayor.. These traits can be controlled to an extent for a period, but you can not diminish or erase them completely from them.. That is why DS's mistakes can be forgiven as she drastically changed her thought process and became liberal, but Jaga's mistakes are unpardonable cuz they have 100% possibilities to re-appear..

Thanks.. 😛