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aparnauma IF-Stunnerz

Joined: 03 September 2011
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Posted: 07 September 2012 at 7:50pm | IP Logged
Nice post. Thanks a lot.

You are so right about us not having control over those memories which come out involuntarily at times.
I admit that I was irritated with the flash backs.But not with the fact that she was having those memories visit her but the way she was handling those thoughts of hers.

Like all those incidents like when she was buying sarees or that teej vrat brought back memories of J.When we are reminded of a person both good and bad memories connected with that person come out.The bad memories will bring you back to the present.That didn't seem to happen with her.

She had asked Shiv to marry her because it was her mother's wish.But once she decided that she would marry Shiv her apparent inability to shake herself of those memories of J that kept visiting her bothered me.
At time she seemed like she was unconsciously using those memories as a gate to block Shiv. That bothered me a lot.While I did n't expect her to start seeing Shiv as her prospective husband in her mind straight away I didn't like the thought that she is bracing herself against Shiv by using those memories of J.

To me it seemed  like she was using those memories of J to tell herself not to accept Shiv based on what J did to her. I felt that she was buying herself a lot of unhappiness by using those memories of J against Shiv.

Any way I am glad  now that she has slowly started to learn how to live with those memories and not allowing the memories to dictate her present and future.

Lastly I really want to thank you for this wonderful post of yours.It helped me figure out why those fbs bothered me a lot.

i always liked reading your posts.Please try to visit this forum a little more frequently.

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melliflous IF-Dazzler

Joined: 02 May 2010
Posts: 3686

Posted: 07 September 2012 at 8:03pm | IP Logged
Nicely put together. I was also not too happy with anandi recalling jagya memories every now n then. But just today I realized that she has unknowingly started making shiv too part of her memories as soon as she hard injection she smiled n recalled shiv's fear of injections. It was very nice to see that. I am sure shiv will manage to create wonderful n sweet memories with anandi which will fade away jagya's memories from anandi's mind gradually.

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dixie123 IF-Sizzlerz

Joined: 02 August 2011
Posts: 18372

Posted: 07 September 2012 at 8:17pm | IP Logged

Antara.. Awesome post !

Missing updates on your FF ! Hope you are going to catch up on it !

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srijay Senior Member

Joined: 08 June 2012
Posts: 279

Posted: 07 September 2012 at 8:35pm | IP Logged
Awesome post .. 
Missesha IF-Dazzler

Joined: 10 March 2011
Posts: 4893

Posted: 07 September 2012 at 8:41pm | IP Logged
Thanks for the post and for sharing a different perspective Antara.

My thoughts regarding FBs are in line with what Aparnauma has outlined. 

It's not a problem that A kept getting those flashes, but the she way held on to them. At that time it appeared that she wanted to remain immersed in those memories, hence blocking Shiv's presence or thoughts in her mind.

Anyways, I am glad that she is taking efforts to move on and thats what we want from her.

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sreevask Goldie

Joined: 11 March 2011
Posts: 1914

Posted: 07 September 2012 at 9:30pm | IP Logged
Happy 2 c you again...we missed u much...thanks for throwing light on the subject...
Anandi remembered jagya's misdeeds n rejected him to recognize him even as a human being...she never forgets it..
Her recalling is contextual 4 comparing similar situations so as to identify her stand in the new environment n 2 justify her course of action that helps her to move ahead,not 4 running back 2 jagya...

She is moving on the normal, natural ,right track... But for the floodies here it is sooo UNREALISTIC... Zombie like...
Goodness is imaginary n crime is realistic...

Thank you for bringing the life back to the ambience...

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sreevask Goldie

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Posted: 07 September 2012 at 9:41pm | IP Logged
Ofcourse for a second marriage girl comparison is a natural phenomena to feel happy about her new life...n it is necessary too... I liked her reply to chotima ...
If she totally forgets past n no recalling, she can't go ahead...chotima like people will make her recall it... N she is preparing herself to groove perfect into sasural n thus playing silent watcher role like any other newly married girl identify herself in the home...not a house like a brick without mind work...

By nature Anandi is not revengetic her FBs...too...

Her forgiving nature cannot be mistaken as running after jagya...

Edited by sreevask - 07 September 2012 at 9:56pm

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andv Goldie

Joined: 09 March 2011
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Posted: 07 September 2012 at 10:33pm | IP Logged
Hey Antara, so glad to see you back. How have you been? Thanks for the post, well explained.

Its only human to remember your past. But what one does with these memories is what really matters. Memories are a natural part of life and in a way shape our behavior, attitude and outlook.  Hence its important to channelize these memories in such a way that one progresses in life rather than stagnates. Personally the good memories of my past give me a satisfaction of living that moment of life well, but the bad memories give me a reminder to not in any way repeat them again.

My thoughts about A's memories about J are very similar to what Aparnauma and Esha have written. They have very well articulated it and hence I will not repeat the same.

Shiv is slowly replacing all those memories of A with happy ones. This is precisely what he needs to do given that he wants to marry her and bring her out of her past. But in order for him to make a beginning she needed to give him a chance which was not happening in the initial few episodes. The A that we have seen in the past few episodes is the one who we recognize and adore. She is not only loving and respectful but also very sincere in all that she makes a commitment to. We do not expect her to change over night or fall in love with him, but she needed to make an attempt which she is doing right now.

In a way I am glad many people opened topics on A's flashbacks, whatever may be their reasons. In fact the official colors website has much more comments than what we have here. At least that way the CVs have been forced to not drag their episodes and move ahead. 

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