Nice post. Thanks a lot.
You are so right about us not having control over those memories which come out involuntarily at times.
I admit that I was irritated with the flash backs.But not with the fact that she was having those memories visit her but the way she was handling those thoughts of hers.
Like all those incidents like when she was buying sarees or that teej vrat brought back memories of J.When we are reminded of a person both good and bad memories connected with that person come out.The bad memories will bring you back to the present.That didn't seem to happen with her.
She had asked Shiv to marry her because it was her mother's wish.But once she decided that she would marry Shiv her apparent inability to shake herself of those memories of J that kept visiting her bothered me.
At time she seemed like she was unconsciously using those memories as a gate to block Shiv. That bothered me a lot.While I did n't expect her to start seeing Shiv as her prospective husband in her mind straight away I didn't like the thought that she is bracing herself against Shiv by using those memories of J.
To me it seemed like she was using those memories of J to tell herself not to accept Shiv based on what J did to her. I felt that she was buying herself a lot of unhappiness by using those memories of J against Shiv.
Any way I am glad now that she has slowly started to learn how to live with those memories and not allowing the memories to dictate her present and future.
Lastly I really want to thank you for this wonderful post of yours.It helped me figure out why those fbs bothered me a lot.
i always liked reading your posts.Please try to visit this forum a little more frequently.