PR this week: Purvi deconstructed - Page 15

Vgiri….please explain how I made it sound so bad, I feel insulted now.

I summarized the story point-wise so far and said what you all wanted (getting Arjun and Purvi married ultimately). I posted from the POV from the societies I live and work in. I am not sure how else I could sugar-coat a naked truth that from an outsider's perspective. I also said, this was bound to happen even if Purvi married Arjun instead of Ovi and I blame it squarely on Archana for supporting any or either girls in this (you could refer to my past posts). At the end, my belief is that love isn't worth a lot of things we get ourselves into, so how did I make it sound worst than it truly is????

 

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You have made it look so bad Kalapi..I am not going discuss further on this..so..Let it go..

A man marrying two sisters is not unheard of -- especially in the indian community. 

The only problem with this being that nobody 'forced' anyone to do anything . All 3 were adults and took decisions consciously they were not thumb sucking children to be

The main criteria/tool in a marriage is trust, understanding and communication. When you don't have either one of it, then this is what happens in ArMan's life which has been clearly pictured to us. They have so much of love for each other but due to the miscommunication they lost 18 years of their life. This is when the third party (devils) dwells in your life. 

👍🏼 👏, Zeezee!! But Archana is not going to do this, she is too happy in her happiness to sacrifice for her daughter, Purvi. She could say to Ovi, give up Arjun if you want your dad's happiness and if you want me to return to him as wife and to you as mother, tit for tat , eye for an eye, I will teach you to bargain and barter human beings. Of course, this is not going to happen not for the reasons some may cite that she has gotten her happiness back after 18 years and deserves it or that her children are adults and she should steer clear of their affairs or that both girls did what they did of their own volition and so she is absolved from the situation. Yes, she is deserving of her happiness, no question about that but as a mother her first priority unfortunately should be her children's happiness and teaching them right from wrong. Stepping aside from the matter because they are adults will not cut it. If we can find excuses for Savita for meddling in her adult son's life because Savita wanted to save Manav (he was several years older than these 3) from his wife, we should expect Archana to meddle too, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Archana instead comes into the house too happy and makes do with an ice breaker kind of convo, "oh, how can you smile with the pain you are hiding", the sanskari daughter responds "anything for you" and that paids put to the daughter's sacrifice.

Zeezee, I agree with you, whether 18 years or 50 years, Archana should tell Manav she cannot accept what Purvi has done or what Ovi has done and that until matters are set right, she cannot return to him as she was used by both girls. I would force Ovi to understand and give up on Arjun.

Zeezee, you are right, sisters marrying the same man is not uncommon. We have an Indian family down our street here where the man brought his wife's sister to take care of his kids and be an unofficial wife to him as his wife is an invalid. Marriage is a sacred institution for what it entails, trust, love, friendship, commitment. If these are not present, the essence of marriage is lost and to uphold a hollow institution sans those important elements only serves to make a mockery of it. Sans those elements, it is not a marriage but a convenience or contract, in this case a barter exchange and hence meaningless and void.

That said, if I were Arjun, I would get the marriage annulled and get out of Mumbai in a jiffy to escape the clutches of both the VI girls.

I  beg to differ here .😊

Originally posted by: zeezee55

So i apologise to everyone but i shall continue to live my life with my daughter Purvi.  Manav - maybe there is a hope for us to get together someday but not now - i cannot even bear to be with you right now.

 

That would be what i would do if i were Archana.

i think ovi is criminal bc she did deal with purvi who buy arjun so purvi also the person who accept deal and sold arjun happiness so the person who do crime and who help in crime both guilty same time.archana not only purvi/ovi's mother,she will choose between ovi/purvi to stay with ,there is teju also,she didnt do any deal why archana willnt think of teju,the girl already didnt get love of her mother these 18years for her parents mistake so why archana willnt think of it?archana only think of purvi not about others?teju herself didnt leave her mom at the age of 1year old,so why she isnt deserve archana?bc she is ovi's sis?😆

Kool, wrote you a long post, IF swallowed it :( will be back in a bit.

Poas, not saying Archana should choose Ovi or Purvi over Tej, she should do the right thing as a mother. Tej didn't ask to be abandoned at one but both parents were at fault including the grandmother, of course, for what transpired. To set things right from 18 years ago, you cannot forget the immediate situation on hand. Also, by outing the truth, it has already been set right in a way. Enjoying conjugal bliss with Manav and being a mom to Ovi is not the only way to accept Tej as a daughter. Just my POV. And as my original post already stated, I understand other reasons may be cited but her duty as mother is to ensure her children's happiness (if it is within her power and/or if she is able to correct the situation) before accepting her own.

Also, not to forget Archana is the one who chose Sachin over her entire kaandhaan and maybe if she had not made that foolish decision, Purvi would never have been put in a situation to give up Arjun for her mother's sake as her Aai would have already been back with her baba giving Ovi no advantage in the barter game. Just a thought.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

I  beg to differ here .😊

It is uncommon to marry a sister it is definetely not a common occurence . One can say it is not unheard of but it is definetely not common .

And if sisters marrying the same man is common and acceptable why was there such a hue and cry when Manav decided to marry his brother's wife ? In that case the brother had died tragically , Manav was not in love with his brother's wife and was clearly doing it to keep his brother's blood in the family . 

Just as sisters marrying the same man is not unheard of , brother marrying his dead brother's wife is also not unheard of . Infact they showed in Ek Chadar Mili si that the north Indians had such a ritual .

But then what is this show about ?  Love and how it should be the top priority over relations and responsibility or vice versa ? Coz this show is called 'Pavitra Rishta' and Manav  was once shown as a very responsible kind of man . He took the responsibility of his whole house on his shoulders .

If 'love' defines any amount of divorces , incest , public insults of elders etc sorry I am better of without it . It is clearly a very toxic drug in this show . Or does this show advocate that take responsibilities as much as you can , then when they become unbearable or stifling dump them and go running to your 'love' . Take a whiff of that drug . For they did show Archana running from the mandap and arriving in Shravni's wedding mandap after divorcing Manav and making her wait two whole years.

Is this culture ? Is this responsibility ? This show boasts about sanskaars ...a.re these sanskaars ?

Btw ...my personal belief . It is infinitely better to remarry when your spouse dies rather than  have a marraige with her sister in front of her sick , invalid eyes . It is a living death for the spouse .  If the husband becomes a cripple or an invalid and the wife remarries his brother in front of his house ' so that he can take care'of the house it is regarded as sacrilege .

I feel deep sympathy for the invalid wife . What she must be feeling she only knows . In marraige there is a vow ...the companionship will last ' for better or for worse .''

Well this is the 'worse' part . There is not always romance in a marraige . Sickness comes too . If the husband becomes an invalid the wife learns to manage the house and outside affirs like a man and takescare of her sick spouse too . Same goes for the man . He should learn the management of the house instead of making a new wife dangle in front of the invalid wife's weak sick eyes . 

In my eyes this is sexist and only an excuse for giving priority to one's 'needs' .

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

The only problem with this being that nobody 'forced' anyone to do anything . All 3 were adults and took decisions consciously they were not thumb sucking children to be

 coerced . Archana should not slap anyone and stay the hell our of this mess as either support and decision will be very painful .

Kool.. may be I do not fully get your sarcasm here.. but..