Posted: 10 September 2012 at 6:01am | IP Logged
Originally posted by newipkk
Just commenting on the concept...I completely DISAGREE with the idea that a married woman is a husband's responsibility. I think the biggest problem of our society is this thinking which very much works against working woman because a husband is made to feel that he is the primary bread winner and should provide for his wife. If society accepted the role of a woman as a primary provider and a husband as a supporter, we would truly become a progressive society.
The second idea which I disagree with is a woman has no rights on her maternal property after marriage. Society makes us believe so which I find wrong. Can you imagine how nice it would be if a girl doesn't have to leave her parent's house after marriage just for the sake of so called RESPECTABLE thing to do. Why can't a couple decide to live in a house which is most convenient for them---be it the girl's house or boy's house?
After reading so many comments on your thread, I am disappointed with the opinion and thinking of so many educated women...I am not bashing anyone. Just sad at how many ages it will take to change such thinking! Education hasn't helped much.
I totally agree with the second part of your post that Arnav should give Di a chance to live her own life. I have always believed that Arnav being so protective and possessive about his Di has a major contribution to her becoming this weak (Anjali is ofc responsible for her situation but her family has not helped either). There are two ways to support a person --- one where you just take every decision for them and second where you give them all facts and make them take their own decisions and make them responsible for their decisions. Arnav by choosing the first way has hurt his Di very much. It is sad to see so many women viewers on this forum to never bring this forth as you did and keep making HATE filled posts for Anjali.
You are confusing lots of things here. Maternal property refers to property owned by parents. Here RM & rest of the property was earned by ASR thru his sweat & toil. What u say holds good only in the case of ancestral property.
Living is different frm freeloading. Living where u share the expenses & contribute based on ur salary is fine. But here poison ivy & her loser hubby r just parasites living a life of luxury sponging off ASR. You find that acceptable?
Also here its Anjali & Dadi who create a ruckus bt traditions/customs etc. There was huge hungama when ASR suggested a live in with LA. Now bt ARHI's marriage not being valid since they dint follow the rasam/sambhar/raita. So if they r so hidebound bt traditions then acc 2 Indian customs & traditions a woman is not supposed 2 stay in mayke but stay in her sasural aft marriage. Double standards? Much!