Posted: 04 September 2012 at 4:18am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Armu4eva
Originally posted by Sujatha.rao
Originally posted by Armu4evaI do not think she meant .. JUST the PHYSICAL aspect... as a wife. .she cooks. takes care of the family .. fulfills her obligations as a daughter in law..! There are varied roles a woman plays.. n physical aspect is a part of it..!
When a persons wishes.. n opinions r not considered .. they r bound to feel neglected n hence the whole thing!
Tanu...I don't think any of these roles were imposed on her...she did them voluntarily and gladly...if she had said but the word, I am sure her husband earns enough money to hire people to do all of this...
People do things for each other and their families out of love...if we started reading into this, then I would say all of us are using each other...we are using our parents, our parents are using us, friends use each other and so on...
Going by this yardstick, when Nidhi went shopping, along with his credit card, should Ashutosh have also felt used?
Yes, I understand that she feels that her emotions are being considered,...and she is right in feeling so...but does not justify saying she feels used...
When a wife says she feels used by her husband, I am sorry but it leaves a very, very bad taste in the mouth...
I am a married woman who has probably has a hundred fights with her husband in a day...there are times when both of us hate the sight of each other but the thought of being used in any way has never risen!
I m explaining what she meant.. n not ..whether she was right in meaning what she did..!
Coming to the credit card thingy... yes ofcourse he was annoyed with her fizul kharchi .. but can u compare.. MONEY with relations??? come on
And ... i think .. this feeling used thing is very common in marital places.. esp i have myself heard the words 'u dun care' 'u act as if i dun exist' etc.. amongst couples.. so it wasnt anything that was so serious that we hv to get into discussing morals here! None of us lead a perfect life.. so lets not expect our heroes/ heroines to act such! Atleast i dont!
Tanu...whether it is money or emotions, they are both currency of different sorts...and you can feel used on account of both...
While we should not expect perfection, let us not justify imperfection either...let us accept it as an imperfection and move on...this is all I say!