Originally posted by: mermaid_QT
Vineet, I agree with you myself and hence said that some may think it is NOMB. I see why you would say that it is the duty of parents / mods. But when these are not around, I see nothing wrong in making a suggestion to see if majority would like such behaviour stopped. If one can prove that majority finds the moral police wrong, then there is a reason to figure who is being oversensitive π.
honestly I feel even one oversensitive person is far too much, talking about majority, there are two people who are flirting and have a wavelength, a moral police steps in and says ok, I find this offensive, anyone else here think this is offensive, majority is on the side of the flirtersπ. by this action the moral police has succeded in putting a mortification effect on the flirters, that goes against any discussion groups rule #1, treat your fellow member with respect
Generally by this time the flirters would have left the discussion and the moral police is now in the majority of one
what has just happened is the moral police has succesfully been able to impose their set of values, morals on others. Now people do not join forums to learn morals, do they?
In your opinion, just as the self-professed moral police is being over-sensitive and supposed to ignore the dirty words and flirting comments, the poster of such comments can (almost always does in fact π π π) ignore the police/ or should report the police in turn for that π³
never happens, Indians/South Asians in general are very respectful or others feelings
e.g A boy and a girl are standing by a street corner, elderly person passes by clears the throat, generally the kids will say, lets talk tommorow at school/college, the kid will never say, "Uncleji Gale me kharash hai, Do you want Strepsils"
Pressing report button multiple times against a poster making offensive / dirty remarks (which majority find distasteful and comment in PMs ) can only get the poster in trouble.
now offensive dirty is a subjective term, if it is beyond a discussion groups policy, they will get warned, the moderator will step in right away and that flirting session will shut down. Also individuals are well aware of their limits, they will not cross that limit or else they know there are consequences, no-one needs to tell them, they know
If it is allowed and moral police is the one who is getting offended, maybe it is time they realize they are in the wrong place
Instead, if the moral police chooses to make it known to the poster, and the poster chooses to select audience, place and tone, I see no harm in trying that. It is being an adult instead of running to Dev team for every twisted or offensive word.
Nope that is vigilatism at the very best
Regards RISKS of personal chatting, what can I say Vineet? I cannot agree more π π with you! Your parenting pointers are the right thing and there is only so much people other than parents can / should do when it comes to saving their friends from predators- who come in discrete fashion.
Additional Comment to clarify - There is a THICK line ππ between funny flirting on web and making it more personal or of sexual nature. I frankly support and even indulge in the former, while I have negative feelings regarding the LATTER in an Internet community where membership is open to children over 14. That is when unasked-for-policing comes in.
now that is our personal opinion about where that line is, I have seen 14-15 year olds who are more advanced than 30 year olds, that is called as Generation gap, When we were 14-15, we were more advanced in certain areas than 30 year olds
I think we are applying our morals in our timeframe to current times, when the rules of engagement have changed significantly and we should let people who understand it more deal with it, rather than getting our hands into it and complicating the matter for the person responsible. Also different people have different set of rules, what is good in my household might be too conservative in yours or vice-versa, with such kind of subjectivety, moral policing is better left to the party responsibile of it, am just glad I am not the party responsibleπ
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