Posted: 11 August 2012 at 4:09pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Jaishankar
@Tanya dear/Naava dear I dont think its fair to even expect Manav to be there for Purvi in this engagement or do anything here for her..No normal person would have done what Manav did in saving Purvi...No matter what his feelings where when he said "I promised Purvi that I will be there for her in need and I stand by it.."
Tanya just as everyone is expecting Manav to see Arjun's love for Purvi during kidnapping track,everyone should also see Manav's love for Purvi..He was there at gun point putting his life at risk for her..What else you require more that...Isnt it understood that Manav loves Purvi but does not want to express it out.He put his whole life in danger withour worrying about anything for a child who he knows only few months and is no way related to him but only related to him coz Archu adopted her (he was not present and unware when Archu adopted her) and for that sake ,he was ready to go aginst anyone to save Purvi..What else more is expected from Manav than this..isnt it more than any guilt or humanity concern...He did what he did from his heart..Isnt that a proof in itself that he does consider Purvi as his own...
No other person would be doing this considering the fact that you are provided circumstances where Archu is totally portrayed in th wrong light to Manav and she herself wants to be in wrong light thanks to Sachu demands..
I totally felt that Archu plea to Manav when she said "Purvi calls you baba Manav " ,this is not something new and everyone knows it..
This was a indirect plea to Manav there..Even though she says ,she understood the situation it was a in-direct plea to Manav to come there..And also the line "I am not asking anything for Purvi from you Manav " and then say "I understand ",its a clear in-direct plea to the other side. I understand Archu on what she wanted to convey but as usual she did not convey it fully as she should have and ate her words.These lines are bound to make other side feel guilty and sad.Hence Archu should have still conveyed it in more meaningful way.Archu doesnt have to explain anything to anyone about Ovi but owing to the situation she could have mentioned her feelings about both her daughters which would have made the other side see her perspective even more better..
MY q here is did she not see how much Manav did to help Purvi on kidnapping track..She says she understands him,didnt she see that no one would put their life @ risk for some guilt or humanity concern meaning Manav also loves Purvi and hence he put his life at risk..She herself saw what Manav said to DK n Arjun when they offfered to help him..So knowing Manav ,Archu should know that he is not doing it out of some guilt or humanity concern alone,there is that love behind for Purvi which makes him put even his life @ risk.
Hence I found it a bit inappropriate of Archu stating as though to say Purvi loves you Manav and she will never get her baba's love and stuff..Even though he is not showing,Manav has never once accused Purvi directly..He has said only that he does not want to talk about Arvi and nor has he ever talked with Purvi in any rude way.It is understood that Manav loves Purvi as his daughters and whenever she needs him,he will be there.OF course this engagement she needs him but situation is complex for him to go and if he was ever angry on Purvi he would have been silent when Archu talked.
He also sees DK there,so he knows a fatherly figure is there to precide over the function..In his mind and heart he will always be wishing good for Arvi and send his blessings through his soul.He does not have to present there but in his heart ,he is bound to pray and give his blessings.That;s all the man can do right now.AS much as Purvi deserve that blessings from Manav,its all imp for Purvi to have a talk with Manav.
And it was a bit weird from Purvi when she said "are anyone coming from your family " and then asking "is baba coming.."..Two totally contrasting lines..I have to blame it on the CV's for showing this insesnitivity here..It totally puts Purvi in wrong light to say that she wants only her Baba and has nothing to do with anyone's pain or concern with any of the D's including Ovi.This is pathetic wirting from the writers.clear case of inconsistency.It was very clear Purvi wants her aai to be united with her family ,so this dialogue was totally out of picture and conveys a worng meaning.
Hence my point here is like Poppy dear said she should have ellaborated a bit to Manav and not always eat her words..She does not have to mention Ovi but for that conversation it was essential she mentioned her coz she said she understood his situation but Archu did not provide the exact reasoning on that..OF course its not needed to be said as its understood but it would have been far better if Archu did not indirectly put the plea on Manav and mentioned him to take care of Ovi.
Like Sowmya dear I am also wondering the hurry and need for this engagement..IT would have been so much easier if this was doen after the divorce period of Arman..But alas guess high drama is what CV's waht and they are showing it.
I think as arjunaluis dear pointed out it could be the other dress sent by Manav as a gift to Purvi..I think Manav will do something for Purvi here without probably making his presence there ,he might convey his blessings in some way.
Jai, both Tanya and I (or at least i think Tanya has said this) don't think or expect manav to go to the engagement . I said just that in the last post. I can only speak for myself for certain, but i think he should convey his blessing to Purvi and Arjun (Arjun for DK's sake) somehow - a phone call or a gift, but that i think it is inappropriate for him to attend. That would def. be asking too much and i think it would be wrong re: Ovi. I think this is just the same as what you are saying.
I don't think anyone is doubting Manav's committment toPurvi. He\s made it clear in a gallant way. But i have to disagree with you about Archu's pouring out her heart about Purvi calling him Baba. I don't think it was in any way manipulative. She was simply pouring out her heart to the only one whom she really wants to know her heart. She was so filled with emotion...she is a woman. She was telling him how she felt (women tend to do that, whereas men want to fix the situation
I don't see how or why Purvi should talk to Manav...it's Arjun's and Dk's responsibility and i think would not look right for Purvi to try to explain. She loves Manav, and she just wanted to know if he was coming. I dont think she expected savita or Ovi to come,...maybe Teju - who vacillates back and forth, and Damo...who says he loves Archana... That was, imo, a totally appropriate question. But we will see on Monday what the actual scene entails.
I for one am glad Purvi is not worrying about Ovi. We don't need another "i will sacrifice my love because someone else is unhappy". She has seen how cruel Ovi can be. I think distancing herself from her is appropriate. I have defended Ovi's heartbreak over and over, but i am not going to go the D-route and coddle cruel and rude behavior... It's one thing to have a broken heart inside, it's another thing to treat people in terrible ways. Ovi could learn a few things about how other people also have feelings.
Edited by naava - 11 August 2012 at 4:17pm