Posted: 10 August 2012 at 8:50am | IP Logged
Morning peeps. Birthday parties are soo much fun - totally reliving my fantasies planning my kiddos party. I am sure she wont notice half the details.
LOVE the discussions.
@Red, shout out to you - fabulous insight.
@Sadie, love your take too..esp the monkeys - makes me wonder, who is the monkey representing? The viewer, the character or the connection in b/n.
@Angel, welcome aboard the club...as @Red said, only criteria is to speak your mind.
@Samana, @Charishma - interesting points about Aarti. Will jump right in.
Aarti is romanticizing love like a young woman who has never experienced it. Maybe she has, maybe she has not. Who knows. Thats the crux, who really knows Aarti? She is so many contradictions it is hard to really guage her element.
As @Ria said, the nascent agreement between Yash and Aarti was that neither would consider the other a spouse in the real sense. Yash spelt it out for both of them in his typical blinker-prone way and Aarti just played along. Will not dwell on the journey to where we are but now, she is slowly demanding more of Yash. She should get more of him if she wants it and if he is ready to give it. Where she is wrong in my opinion is, she is tricking him to give more of himself to her. This is neither romantic nor loving. It borders on something not wonderful. Cases in point:
Aarti asks to make a pot, Yash starts to walk away. Aarti says magic word Arpita, he stays. Then they proceed to work amicably and even have a moment but would it have been possible without the magic word and if not, does it really count?
Aarti makes a jhula, Yash is clueless what to do with it (Really dude, what happened in school to you?). The kids put them on it and she proceeds to hang on to Yash's arm for stability? What was Yash doing? He was hanging on to the rope or whatever.
Aarti asks for bangles after watching a couple indulge in them. Yash refuses. Aarti then goes on to loudly pick the most garish ones to get his attention and he comes over and selects a better one. He then again starts to walk away when she insists he puts them on her and feels all wonderful when he does that. What should he have done. Yelled at her again for her to back off?
The common theme in all this is Aarti asks something of Yash for herself. Yash always refuses and then Aarti coaxes him into it. I am a purist when it comes to romance - it is mutual and the very mundane happenings are romantic only because they mean so much to both. Moments just happen, they are never planned or well thought of. These are so well executed in all movies and shows, even in PV in the first few encounters b/n both of these. Now, that magic is half gone because we have someone who is planning some of them out and coaxing the other to be with her in them. They just come off awkward.
An example of how romantic the bangle scene could have been would be if Aarti just watched Bhavri-hub buy bangles and didnt ask for them from Yash. Then Bhavari goes to HIM and tells him abt the rivaaz and then he buys the bangles and leaves them next to her. No word necessary, no eye locks necessary. The act of buying bangles is his own and for her only.
Sorry for the tome, has been a slow morning here