Posted: 08 August 2012 at 8:30pm | IP Logged
I cannot completely support Gulabiya's actions in this story and the people I blame for this are the CVs of the show. Granted Gulabiya wanted to make sure TVS intentions were honorable and when she found out he was already married she was well within her right to confront TVS for the deception. Her intent was to ensure that her daughter was not going to end up as TVS' mistress; as a second wife (even if the first wife was kept hidden), it would reduce her to the status of a Bedni since the second marriage of TVS would be considered as invalid.
Here are my issues...Gulabiya's confrontation contrasts drastically with her behavior during the earlier parts of the show...when Sugni was ordered to the lal manzil - to be gang raped, Gulabiya was helpless...it was only thanks to the guy turning out to be her half-brother that saved her. Still, Gulabiya was terrified and slapped Sugni for defending a young girl.
Gulabiya could not protect her daughter from the Rai dance - she was forced to attend it thanks to the uncles and nearly got raped again...TVS came to her rescue here. Then, when Sugni and the whole family was cut off from the community, TVS came to speak up; he also came to the family at their time of need when Sugni's mami was expecting and again, when the family was starving.
The manner in which Gulabiya spoke to him was very disrespectful compared to the other occasions when she was too afraid to speak up. WHY the difference? The reason she spoke up is not because she wanted to protect Sugni - after all, in all these other occasions Sugni's honor was at stake.
She spoke up or had the gumption to speak up because it was SAFE. TVS would NOT hurt her or Sugni...YES, he was deceptive, BUT he would NEVER rape Sugni or take her against her will. He would also NEVER hurt the family. Knowing that it was SAFE for her to speak up, I cannot view Gulabiya's actions as honorableor necessarily protective because she was NOT protecting her daughter from someone was EVIL or had EVIL intentions. Wrong intentions yes, but certainly not evil.
Also, if Gulabiya's intentions were honorable, then just as much as TVS is responsible for driving a wedge between Sugni and her mother, it was Gulabiya who FORCED Sugni to chose between TVS and her. IF Gulabiya had not forced Sugni into TVS arms, then the rift would not exist.
Our children always make bad choices in life; they fall for people we cannot comprehend and often see as someone is not good. Sugni is 18; at best a mother can only guide or advise; when you give ultimatums like this you LOSE. It is fortunate that ultimately TVS had to confess the truth, but Gulabiya's disrespect did not win her any points; her freedom to let her tongue wag was only possible because the family would NEVER hurt her.
Now that Sugni is no longer going to be TVS wife, now what? Will the character of Gulabiya come to terms with the reality that the family is fianancially strapped? Will the family reawaken their financial struggle or with the CVs change the entire storyline and forget what hardships the family endured in the past? Will we watch Aditya suddenly become the hero of the day and the family openly loose their self-respect and accept gifts from him while rejecting the offer of financial help with TVS offered it (in the form of money and eventually a job?).
The CVs have thus handled the whole situation very poorly. In essence they have not made Gulabiya come across as a wise mother - well intended - but not wise in her actions. Her long term thinking clearly has not been considered. Making enemies of the man who was there for you multiple times will not win her any brownie points with Sugni is forced to give up her honor - which I hope we eventually witness as this is the REALITY of the life of the Bednis.
As for throwing the ring at TVS feet - that was very rude on Sugni's part; granted TVS was wrong and she had a right to be angry and hurt but that was the ring of his mother and that was an insult to the woman. I would have much rather seen her return the ring and if he refused to take it, leave on a table. A far more dignifed and honorable act and that would have still got the point of across.
OK..so let us see what happens...
Edited by Laila2009 - 08 August 2012 at 9:36pm