Posted: 08 August 2012 at 7:38pm | IP Logged
Ab jaake aya unt pahar ke neeche
(someone has come to his senses)...It was a landmark episode of sorts. Aarti finally got to vent and assert her identity. The brook managed to quell the unreasonable, angry swell of the river...and halt his flow for a moment... by causing some strong ripples of reality of her own in his underbelly. "I am happy being the brook I am...I have absolutely nothing to do with the stream you left behind."
The value of identity is that so often with it comes purpose.
Aha...she forgets a clothing item...not just any, but one that only she is privy to in this big wide world...something that has covered her naked self...a self that resides in her in spite of various attempts by many people to strip her of her identity. Today it represented the invisible armor that she wore against all the Arpita onslaughts that she had to bear till today. Exposure of that armor caused the dam to burst.
There is no order in her chaos...However, there is a whole lot of chaos in his order. And the clash of two was waiting to happen. She was always a somewhat disorderly person as opposed to his orderly being...plus the last-minute decision to take the trip didn't help matters. As usual she held herself lowest in priority and messed up with her packing...forgetting the vital item. She wants to deal with her privacy on her own, but he pushes his way through, not wanting to let her go out on her own in the face of a lurking danger outside. She may be on her way to purchasing a clothing that would cover her modesty...but he had a stronger purpose...He needed to accompany her to protect not only her modesty but also her self. She didn't want him in...but he forced himself in, as if it is his right!!
All her efforts to keep him from entering the shop end up futile. She faces the shopkeeper's double-meaning jibes and distasteful remarks...all because of him."Oh...it'd have been simpler if he hadn't insisted on accompanying her. But no, he had to...he always does this...create chaos with his order and leave her to face the mess...she is always left to do the cleaning up. But not anymore...he needs to learn to take responsibility and participate in the tidying up. This is a partnership and he must keep his side of the bargain." She insists that he go and get the bags, so that she doesn't have to face the shopkeeper's affronting insinuations anymore. He thinks she is asserting her status as his wife and trying to be Arpita..."Ever since we have come here, you have changed...how you dress, how you speak, how you behave, all have changed...How many times do I have to tell you you can never be Arpita?"... Already irritated with the unnecessary hullabaloo, her patience was running thin as it is...On hearing another Arpita jibe throws her off gear...and she lashes back..."You are wrong!!! I have never ever tried to be Arpita...Have I ever asked you to accept me as your wife? Have I ever asserted my wifely rights on you? In fact I have always tried to help you to keep her memories alive...doing everything in my power to make you come closer to her. But no...you twist that on me. The problem is with you. You see her everywhere. You do so many things on your own for me and Ansh...and when I try to do the same, it becomes an issue? An Arpita issue? Why? I am not Arpita...I am Aarti...and I am very happy to be who I am...And if you still feel I hurt you, then I am sorry." She defends the very identity he helped revive in her.
He is slowly realizing that he is putting up Arpita's name as defence each time Aarti's presence in his life weakens him...he accuses Aarti of the very crime he is being guilty of. She affects him...period. He has to be with her...he has to protect her...he cannot see her turning her back to him...all that, he wants...not once has Aarti asked him to. He realizes that...He finally condescends and apologizes...but she doesn't bend. Sometimes a mere 'sorry' is not enough...it has to be attested with action. And she wants him to understand that...that responsibility doesn't end with playing parents...but involves being available in person to be accountable for your actions. There is more to being responsible than walking away after you feel you are done...Responsibility means to stay and face up the consequences.
Yash is learning the ways of life. He was always shielded...and, so, never bothered to face the consequences. But away from the family and their protective cocoon, he is opening his eyes to stark truth of a marriage. In a way, Aarti is ensuring he regains his identity and be true to the self-righteous and upright man that he is. And for that if he has to face a few home truths and go through a reality check, then so be it!!!
- When Gayatri was coming down hard on Pari, I was reminded of a very old song...Kaal ka phaiya ghume re bhaiya, laakh tarah insaan chale (the wheel of time will rotate, howsoever way a person walks...)...Today Pari stands where Aarti was in the beginning. Gayatri remains the same...Difference is where Aarti was resilient and patient so could overcome the challenges, Pari is young and impatient. Aarti didn't even bother to take to heart any comparison she was subjected to with the other new bahu and so didn't let any ill-feeling creep in for Pari...but a hint of comparison is causing Pari to stop and rebel against what she feels are family's double standards and unfairness to her.
That's it friends. It was an episode, which on the face was light and frothy, but dealt with some deep issues. These two are so good for each other...Their purpose at the moment is to acknowledge each other's identity..and help each other in finding it...and understand it's value. ***Sigh*** soul mates every inch of the way!!!!
Have a nice day all.
Edited by InduG64 - 08 August 2012 at 10:06pm