Posted: 07 August 2012 at 11:50pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by stafhtad
I do not know about your post and if it was positive or negative and hence cannot comment on that.
But the general feeling of what I saw happen to posts is as follows.
All it seems to take is one person to complain saying my feelings are hurt.
Whether the post is good or bad doesn't matter. Some person with a grudge or a beef or had a past debate with TM, decided to be evil and complain my feelings got hurt, I am offended, is all it takes.
What I don't understand here is this.
Characters cannot be bashed. They are not even real. Who is hurting here. Obviously the fans who cannot distinguish between the character and actor. SO this rule came into existence. Is this even right. Why should anyone get offended if a character is called spineless or dumb.
Actors cannot be bashed. This I agree. But if someone says Barun needs to improve his voice modulation, an immediate attach happens and the post is deemed to be bashing. I have seen such thread closed.
Shyam and Mami are called the most evil names and bashed left and right but different rules for side characters. Why, are they not important characters? Are the actors playing them not real human beings. DO those actors not have fans of their acting talent?
What about the real feeling of real people who make this forum a success. Don't real people have any importance. So I say negative things against Barun or Anjali, I am spreading negativity. My hurt and my pride are minor compared to the hurt and pride of the person reporting??
I personally feel the worship of Barun and his butt and his biceps and related topics are highly offensive.
Which lady on this forum or which girl in this forum will tolerate if a man came to this forum and made posts about Sanaya / Kushi's figure, with closeup GIFs? Will these same people appreciate that male and call him positive? He will be lynched and thrown out and rightly so.
So if it is offensive for a man to make crude remarks about an actress, why is it not offensive for a woman/girl to make extremely crude remarks about a actors physique? Can I present this argument and complain on every such post and say I am offended? Will it be valid?
Such is the double standards. When the forum is a haven for one particular actor and character, then this is not a forum for the serial, but it is a forum for ASR/BS.
I agree that we are a baised lot in this world when it comes to the definition of right and wrong for men and women . Well, if it is a wrong thing to do by a man then same should apply to women too. But at the same time saying BS is a goodlooking guy or Sanaya irani is a beautiful girl is not wrong. Appreciation of anything whether looks or acting should be done in the right way, though.
However, I dont agree that this forum is for bs/asr alone. I feel you yourself are sounding a little biased while making this statement !!!! There are plenty who are si/khushi fans too in this same forum who will knock a member dead if anything is said against the actress/character.
This post was about why this members earlier post got closed, is n't it ? Well people should discuss and give their two cents in a non abusive(using abusive terminology) manner . Mods should rather address the members who made the problem replies rather than the post creator.
Edited by ipkkndfan30 - 07 August 2012 at 11:52pm