Posted: 08 August 2012 at 8:33am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mahi12
Originally posted by jiya25
Originally posted by mahi12
ankit seeing comments on Anandi today i never knew i have done so much wrong with my fiancee ..i guess i should say sorry to him right now ...because when my parents chosen a guy for me and arranged our very first meeting ..i told him i trust my parents a lot .i know they will never take wrong decision for me .. i never knew i was so rude to him . i thought i was honest to him there ..poor guy he must have been expecting something else
haye rabba mujhe abhi maafi mangini pade gi
why are you getting so hyper lady first chill and secondly try to understand context of my post i don't want to narrate my personal story here but to make you understand i have to because you really made me do this ...i said to him i am only ready to marry you on my parents decision didn't say i love you darling after seeing your picture i fell in love with you please marry me and i have told many times to him i never wanted to marry to anyone because i never wanted to leave my parents its like they made me understand why marriage is important for a person and its only my parents who made me understand otherwise on my own i would never agree to marry to anyone i am not bragging but this what i really said to him many times because like every girl i just don't want to leave my home and parents my siblings my family so at one point i found myself in very much situation like Anandi ..i don't want to marry my parents made me understand .. till my engagement this getting marriage decision was solely my parents ..after my engagement now i have started to understand my fiancee and started to appreciate what a gem my parents have chosen for me and i am very happy he is going to be my life partner and to tell you truth my fiancee always appreciated my this honesty .that i don't shy away saying truth God give my parents long life God give me more opportunties to fulfill their wishes but till my engagement this my marriage was purely my parents decision and my fiancee too knows it but its now like i am ready to marry on my own will too ..so for me Anandi telling truth to shiv did no wrong and i haven't said to anyone here Anandi should say sorry to shiv i am only referring that to me ..first read posts please then comment..peace out
I am pretty chilled out, unless you think responding to your post is hyperactivity. I didn't make you narrate your story here...I was responding to your post where you compared your situation to anandi's and pretty much mocked the discussion happening in this thread (at least that's how your post came across, sarcastic and mocking)...
i understand your feelings about parents, family and arranged marriages. They are all very respectable feelings...but a girls apprehensions at marrying a stranger and leaving her loving family behind, and her being very upfront about her apprehensions and her reasons for agreeing to arranged marriage (trusting parents and respecting their wishes) is a little different than what we are discussing here...anandi's situation is slightly more complex than yours and her reasons are perhaps bleaker too...
i dont want to repeat myself here, but no one is saying that anandi wouldn't be a good wife after marriage...the whole point of the thread was that yesterday's conversation was a one-sided. just anandi's pov and her issues...there was no thought of shiv, and his feelings about the matter. some say that she is respecting shiv by being honest about her reasons...yes i completely and wholeheartedly agree...but was there no space in that respect to allow her to say that 'i understand that your reasons for wanting to get married and your expectations of a wife might be different than mine but i want you to understand my situation here? '
if that is supposed to be too much for anandi to say, then fine, let's agree to disagree...
Edited by jiya25 - 08 August 2012 at 8:34am