Posted: 08 August 2012 at 11:51am | IP Logged
Originally posted by hillydee
Well, I am happy for the officer who stayed with his mentally ill wife, but to each his own.
Plus, I think it is wrong getting your daughter married to a man when you know she is mentally ill,and you do not inform him. This is Vikram's situation. I would never do that to anyone's son. Parents who do that should be arrested.
A mentally ill person cannot offer you a normal relationship. You do not know whether they are coming or going. You will not get their love truly, because they go in and out of rational thinking. They cannot be a normal parent to children. Mental illness is not something to play with and there are different degrees of severity. So, please find out the facts before judging Vikram or anyone in his situation.
Sometimes, I think we women go overboard in what we believe a man should accept or not accept . because we think too emotionally and love to imagine how a man should just accept everything and anything about us. That is selfish thinking.
It seems in Reva's case medication is not an option, or maybe she refuses to take it. If you have been seriously watching Reva, you would have a better understanding of what Vikram is going through and not be so one-sided. Where you think he got that cut from his forehead. Reva is a danger to not only herself but to others.
He who feels it, Knows it best. Never try to put yourself in another person's shoe, unless you have walked in it, unless you are speaking hypothetical.
You haven't been in his shoe either. I agree that it is hard to live with someone like that. BUT it is also wrong of him to dupe Sugni and marry her even though he knows that she is alive. You said so yourself that the parents should be arrested if they try to get their mentally ill daughter/son married to someone without telling them the truth.
I know that TVS panicked...and did what he thought was best...but he made a mistake. What he did was wrong too. We shouldn't deny that fact too. To sympathize with him is one thing...but to say what he did was right is wrong. I'm not saying that he should be hanged or arrested for what he did...but it would be hard to trust him again.
I don't blame him for what he did with Reva...but he should be blamed for what he did with Sugni.
Edited by XAiShBaBy08X - 08 August 2012 at 12:09pm