Originally posted by hillydee
How would you feel if your family member got you married to an insane person and you found out after the wedding? Easy to judge others, but that can't be easy. What could a person possible do in a marriage with someone insane, how do you love them.
If you got married fell in love then they became Insane then I could understand if you felt the need to stay in the marriage.
Correct me if i am wrong - i thought Rewa became mentally unstable after some accident.
I agree it is not pleasant to be married to a mentally unstable person. Neither is it pleasant to be married to a nagging husband or wife, nor is it pleasant to marry an insecure jealous husband/wife. I am not juding anyone. I am going by the facts of the situation.
I personally know of 2 families like that (true blue life stories)
1. Rich family marries their not so stable daughter to a man. Man found out after marriage - but accepted as the problem did not seem bad at the time - but within 5 years, the situation became unbearable - wife had to be institutionalised. Finally man spoke to wife's parents and said that the situation was unacceptable as there was no hope of wife getting better and what of him, his own life? Inlaws were very understanding .. agreed that a divorce was the only situation. So they were divorced and man later re-married and is till today happily married. Ex wife is still in the institution.
2. My neighbour - a police officer - married this girl and later found her to be schizophrenic. He never left his wife. He did not divorce her nor did he appear (as far as we are aware) have another woman. He ensured she received her medication on time and as long as she had her medication she was fiine. They never lived separately and had 3 children (1 unfortunatley was a schiz but the other two were normal) and lived together to their old age. Life was not pleasant for him, I know, but he acepted it and as he told my mother once "If i don't take care of her, who will?" He accepted the situation and kept his marriage vows of protectiing her.
I know it is not pleasant to be married but at the same time we cannot throw them out. Its karma and sometimes we must pay it without anger or regret.
There is no answer for anyone in such a situation - only what your own conscience will allow you -