Regarding today's episode!!! - Page 9

Umi dear...so well said, loved every word... [/QUOTE]

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Edited by umayal - 11 years ago

[/QUOTE] Hi Naava..I wrote the post, so will answer you (you need coffee, if you are posting so late😆, man we are all addicts😉 - although, I am posting from work😃)...for a marriage to happen the mother's consent isn't a must...couple do marry without their parent consent, right??? Of course, Purvi could say she won't marry without Archu's consent...even then if I was the mom in similar situation, could have said - 'I donnot consent to your marriage nor marriage of Ovi with Arjun...if you marry, it is purely your decision without my support - because I side with none in this situation'. Edited by Kalapi - 11 years ago

Kalapi, naava and the rest,

I don't think Archu even needs to keep out of it totally. If arjun and purvi need her consent to get married, she can give it now that she thinks it is right. I still don't understand why engagement and marriage right away though. They can very well wait for a few months and enjoy their time together now that archana has given her consent, without getting engaged or married. After all, even with their "true and deep" love, they've only know each other for a few months. And everybody has accepted arjun and purvi, even Ovi in a sense. She clearly told yesterday that arjun didn't even notice her when she went to see him in the hospital. The problem's not that nobody knows arjun and purvi love each other. The problem is that the love has come at the cost of their daughter's heartbreak which is still fresh. After all, it's only been little more than a month in the show's timeline since punni told ovi and everybody else about arjun and purvi. One can't expect the girl who has loved this guy since whenever she understood what love was, and who got engaged to him, with his consent to accept in a month that he was actually in love with her mother's other daughter. That's not fair in any sense.

Tough love may be required later, if she doesn't accept after some time has passed and she still hasn't accepted that arjun will not marry her. Right now, she just needs time and to know that her family is by her side. She doesn't need to know or see arjun and purvi's love story or them getting engaged and married, so soon after she was the one he was going to be married. She even said she and arjun would have been getting ready for their own marriage if her engagement hadn't broken. Arjun and purvi getting married right now and archana announcing in front of ovi that she would get them married is not tough love; it's clear preference given to purvi and rubbing salt in ovi's wounds. If archana really wanted to confront ovi with the truth; it should have been to acknowledge that Ovi did love arjun and that he didn't reciprocate it was bad, but that arjun never understood her love and he probably didn't deserve her. Instead, she told ovi that she's not god and archana herself is going to get arjun and purvi married. I can't see how that's the right thing to say in any way. Arjun may be the best person on earth, but you don't tell the person who's been ditched by him that he's a good guy so she's getting her other daughter purvi married to him. That's not tough love, that's not mothering, that's just being insensitive to ovi's pain.

Finally, I do think arjun and purvi should get married. I'm tired of their story and I hope they'll be out of the picture once they get their happy ending. But the engagement and marriage needs to be stalled for a reasonable amount of time to allow ovi and the deshmukhs get over her heartbreak. Not for years or anything, but a few months. In fact, engagements and marriages of one child do not happen immediately after another child's engagement has ended except under special circumstances; even if to completely different people. The situation here is much more complex with arjun being the guy in common. No way is that going to go well with anyone in the Deshmukh family irrespective of knowing the "truth" whatever that may be, especially so soon after Ovi's engagement broke!

Edit to add: Don't have the time to read all the posts, but I saw something I wanted to respond to. I don't remember which one exactly, so responding here. It was about how Ovi knew that arjun never loved her and that she would not be the first priority in his life from the beginning; and that it was her cross to bear. But she was also promised marriage by Arjun right? Where's his cross?
Edited by sowmya_jairam - 11 years ago

Hi Naava..I wrote the post, so will answer you (you need coffee, if you are posting so late😆, man we are all addicts😉 - although, I am posting from work😃)...for a marriage to happen the mother's consent isn't a must...couple do marry without their parent consent, right??? Of course, Purvi could say she won't marry without Archu's consent...even then if I was the mom in similar situation, could have said - 'I donnot consent to your marriage nor marriage of Ovi with Arjun...if you marry, it is purely your decision without my support - because I side with none in this situation'. Edited by naava - 11 years ago

Exactly...and we do have successful arrange marriages too😉

Sowmya dear, always good to read ur post👏 Edited by Kalapi - 11 years ago

Today's epi proves what kind of a mother Archana really is. She is unfair to the core it is obvious that she favors Purvi well over Ovi. I liked it when Manav held out his hand signaling for her not to come in the room. Savita was right when she called Archana foolish and then Archana's response angered me. She thinks she has been unfair to Purvi and Arjun and been too caring for Ovi and Teju?😡 Chooses adopted daughter over biological daughters. This can be expected out of her and Sulo kept encouraging this! I hated the way Archana said that Arjun is a good person and all that. Did she suddenly forget what he did to Ovi and that he cheated her? She cares more about Arvi then Ovi? I hope Manav stands by Ovi. I can't believe Archana's cold behavior toward Ovi she thinks it's ok that Arjun cheated her and she accepts Arjun because he is good with Purvi only she doesn't care what he does to Ovi. And Sulo was just there grinning on at how Archu accepted Arvi's relationship. umi said it best Sulo does NOT guide Archu properly at all.

And what is with Archu always thinking that oh I am always right one day Teju/Ovi will realize that I made the right decision i naccepting Arvi relationship. She thinks she is always right and Archu and Sulo are both shameless Sulo doesn't care a bit for Ovi's pain she is just there for Purvi no one is there for Ovi.
Edited by bhallarox - 11 years ago