Regarding today's episode!!! - Page 8

Originally posted by: naava

i really truly think Jai this would be the best thing ever...Remove Manav, Tej, Savita from the picture and let Archana and Ovi go at it... i am 100% positive they will emerge from the room, tears of emotion spent, but hugging and loving...  I really really think that Ovi knows deep down that Archana is right in everything she has said to her...not just recently either.  I think she knows Archana loves her a lot...she has startled her more than once with the truth...and i think she longs for Archana's arms around her comforting her...God i wish the cv's would show this backroom brawl...and then bawling...😆   😆 

I want to say something personal here...My stepdaughter in her rebellious teenage years told me later, "you were the only one who loved me enough to discipline me."  And believe you me, it was really really really hard at the time...i wasn't popular with anyone even though i gave much in listening and loving and understanding,  I was in fact the only one who said no, the only one who grounded her for some very rebellious behavior...But my (step)daughter straightened out and became a responsible young woman...and i cherished her words later when she told me that it was my caring enough to correct her that made the difference. 

I think it's the same with Ovi and her mother.  

Originally posted by: naava

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

However we slice it, the girl, Ovi is in need of help, heartbroken, yes, just cause for hating Purvi, yes but with all that said and done, the girl is delusional. 

No one however heartbroken would keep insisting the wedding is going to happen, even with facts staring at her face.  The guy per her own admission did not spare her a glance at the hospital, told in front of all that he loves another but this poor little young teenager persists in believing otherwise.  Poor child, she has been bereft of a mother's love for 18 years, the world is at fault for that, she has suffered and so has to be given everything she wants and needs, everyone needs to dance to her tune.  Arjun is a Ken doll that she believes is hers and so he must belong to her. Her dad, grandma and siblings instead of smacking some sense into her, keep cossetting her, encouraging her in these delusional beliefs.  So since she has been jilted, it is okay for her to beg her dad to refrain from trying to get the girl who is her adopted sister after all, back safe and sound.  It is okay just because she has been jilted to try every trick in the book to get the guy back.  "If I cannot have him, no one else can, I will make sure of that".  That sounded like an ominous threat, so if she puts Purvi's life in jeopardy, it is okay, it is understandable, Ovi is heartbroken and jilted, she loved this boy since she was 14 and so for that all should be forgiven. 

In life, nothing is fair, we don't have a sense of entitlement to stuff we cannot have, a promotion, a lifestyle, a guy you want.  For us to be looking at her solely from the perspective of a jilted girl and not hold her accountable to any standards of common human decency is just not right.  Sorry if this hurts some of you, just my take on Ovi.

Originally posted by: Jaishankar

Naava dear you are one amazing mother and a soul 👏...Well let me say that you are Archu with brains that we all so wished to see 😆😉

Originally posted by: umayal

Jai,

As I said ,we debating and you enjoying is not fair 😆,

But then what to do Adhat se Majboor😳, I will also add my part again to give you another post to read.

Considering Ovi's situation and empathizing with or sympathizing  with her  is not because that we have the same streak in ourselves , its that we understand what that girl is made of and what situation she is hold of and under what circumstances her character as been changed of.

Yes she was going vulnerable and even i didnt like the fact that she is still not getting over with ArJun, as I feel she deserves better person for the way she is capable of loving a person.

Ok anyone who loves the pair ,will have a hatred with the Person who comes in between that Pair.

But one fact to be reminded of is ,Ovi wasnt the second girl here, who simply comes ,claim arjun even though when ArVi are engaged in love. Its the other way round.

This girl has been engaged with that guy, Have been promised marriage and then left in lurch.

She was the first one to came in Arjun's life. later denied her love.

I too want her to get out of it and see her life. But still I dont understand why this simple fact that this girl has been cheated or let down ,and she needs tender loving care ,some time to come out it is not understood.

Ok, as I said before we need not have the same streak in us to understand and talk for them and their situation.

We may sympathize or empathize with Ovi in the fact that, we all Know how a Mother's Love is .How immensely it is needed, How supportive the mom's love would be. as this Girl is abandoned of that and she has not gotten or had the pleasure of that love, our feel for her is more.

Archu wasnt hold wrong for the fact she decided or for her decision but hold wrong for the way she expressed it and made the situations worse. Her reaction yesterday was not the way a Mom should had responded and most probably  not for a Mom like her when her equation with her family is considered.

A mother can be strict , can be firm in bringing the child proper.

But when to be strict, In what ways the firmness should be shown off is what needs to be considered.

Any Mom will not broke the heart of the child with her firmness. they will make the child understand what their stand was but not with the way like we talk to a third person.

Ok as said, believed, let archu wish ovi to bring out of this Halat. Let she be firm and strict in that aspect. But

Archu's firmness of Bringing Ovi out of the situation should had been implemented in a diff  way and not cent percent  the way it happened yesterday.

She could take diff measures to do it, Make the truth Know to the child in the way it should be.

Know that Mom's Knows the child better and its her duty.

She can be strict too. but a fact to be remembered is, if the child had experienced the tender loving care ,affection and support of mom so far, then the scolding or strictness at times will have a Value as we know our mom already and how she is.

But In Ovi's or Teju's case, its different, they didnt know their mom only and dont know how she is.

Then how could we expect them to accept  archu's strictness when they havent experience her love only. And even archu hasnt worked on it so far or her actions so it.

So first archu should make some situation for the love and care and then go for strictness.

Hope Cvs does this first.

Originally posted by: umayal

Jai,

As I said ,we debating and you enjoying is not fair 😆,

But then what to do Adhat se Majboor😳, I will also add my part again to give you another post to read.

Considering Ovi's situation and empathizing with or sympathizing  with her  is not because that we have the same streak in ourselves , its that we understand what that girl is made of and what situation she is hold of and under what circumstances her character as been changed of.

Yes she was going vulnerable and even i didnt like the fact that she is still not getting over with ArJun, as I feel she deserves better person for the way she is capable of loving a person.

Ok anyone who loves the pair ,will have a hatred with the Person who comes in between that Pair.

But one fact to be reminded of is ,Ovi wasnt the second girl here, who simply comes ,claim arjun even though when ArVi are engaged in love. Its the other way round.

This girl has been engaged with that guy, Have been promised marriage and then left in lurch.

She was the first one to came in Arjun's life. later denied her love.

I too want her to get out of it and see her life. But still I dont understand why this simple fact that this girl has been cheated or let down ,and she needs tender loving care ,some time to come out it is not understood.

Ok, as I said before we need not have the same streak in us to understand and talk for them and their situation.

We may sympathize or empathize with Ovi in the fact that, we all Know how a Mother's Love is .How immensely it is needed, How supportive the mom's love would be. as this Girl is abandoned of that and she has not gotten or had the pleasure of that love, our feel for her is more.

Archu wasnt hold wrong for the fact she decided or for her decision but hold wrong for the way she expressed it and made the situations worse. Her reaction yesterday was not the way a Mom should had responded and most probably  not for a Mom like her when her equation with her family is considered.

A mother can be strict , can be firm in bringing the child proper.

But when to be strict, In what ways the firmness should be shown off is what needs to be considered.

Any Mom will not broke the heart of the child with her firmness. they will make the child understand what their stand was but not with the way like we talk to a third person.

Ok as said, believed, let archu wish ovi to bring out of this Halat. Let she be firm and strict in that aspect. But

Archu's firmness of Bringing Ovi out of the situation should had been implemented in a diff  way and not cent percent  the way it happened yesterday.

She could take diff measures to do it, Make the truth Know to the child in the way it should be.

Know that Mom's Knows the child better and its her duty.

She can be strict too. but a fact to be remembered is, if the child had experienced the tender loving care ,affection and support of mom so far, then the scolding or strictness at times will have a Value as we know our mom already and how she is.

But In Ovi's or Teju's case, its different, they didnt know their mom only and dont know how she is.

Then how could we expect them to accept  archu's strictness when they havent experience her love only. And even archu hasnt worked on it so far or her actions so it.

So first archu should make some situation for the love and care and then go for strictness.

Hope Cvs does this first.

Originally posted by: umayal

And one more thing I wished to add to the above post,

But when i edit it, its gone.

So putting it here again.

However Savita aai might be, She spills some bitter truth most times, archu was foolish  and missed the opportunity of making up with her daughters in this span, 

so as Savita aai said, yes she is.

In this I dont find fault with archu.

Its the Cvs at fault , they portray her like that.

She seems correct in some of her intentions but then fail miserably in implementing them

a)Archu's firmness of Bringing Ovi out of the situation is fine and for that she making Ovi know the truth is also fine but even there, yet again she failed  by throwing the Support of Purvi in Ovi's face and thus increasing the intensity of  the  situation more. its just didnt help.

b)And then, archu thinking Arjun two timed is correct from a mothers point of view and i appreciated her for that, but then her challenge was the Lame one and as Kalapi di said, still that fact about arjun remain the same and how it get washed out by this challenge beats me. just because Arjun is the hero, doesnt mean that he wasnt wrong.

He might be too good, be hardworking ,can do anything for what he wants, desires, can do anything for his love, in this case Purvi, but still the base fact remains same that he lead two girls without them knowing it.

However he might reason that with his helplessness, he did it.

c)Like this there are umpteen no.of.situation where archu's thought process might be correct but execution failed miserably.

Actually i should blame sulo and only her for this. She brought up archu with a Mind set that she is no where wrong. she will always be right. 

And even today archu feels that way and yet her action contradict to the solution needed.

Sulo isnt guiding archu properly.

Originally posted by: bhallarox

Naava hope it's ok if I respond😊 I think Ovi was totally justified in saying it's not their business if Purvi gets kidnapped. The reason I say this is because what has Purvi ever done for Ovi she actually in a way took away the most precious thing of her life-Arjun that is.

@blue Sorry to disagree but I didn't find Archana comforting at all to Ovi. She was so downright rude to her saying she is no God and she can't write people's destiny. To me that's not very comforting she actually made Ovi more mad by saying this. Loved how Manav told Archana to keep out of it who is Archana to tell Ovi such things? Archana favors Purvi more then Ovi and it's a fact Sulochana manipulated her into thinking like this. I don't think Damo has a good heart one bit he is not helping at all by siding with Archana always. Ovi cries-it doesn't matter to him if his granddaughter is in pain but Archana's tears surely do mean a lot to him.

Originally posted by: umayal

And one more thing I wished to add to the above post,

But when i edit it, its gone.

So putting it here again.

However Savita aai might be, She spills some bitter truth most times, archu was foolish  and missed the opportunity of making up with her daughters in this span, 

so as Savita aai said, yes she is.

In this I dont find fault with archu.

Its the Cvs at fault , they portray her like that.

She seems correct in some of her intentions but then fail miserably in implementing them

a)Archu's firmness of Bringing Ovi out of the situation is fine and for that she making Ovi know the truth is also fine but even there, yet again she failed  by throwing the Support of Purvi in Ovi's face and thus increasing the intensity of  the  situation more. its just didnt help.

b)And then, archu thinking Arjun two timed is correct from a mothers point of view and i appreciated her for that, but then her challenge was the Lame one and as Kalapi di said, still that fact about arjun remain the same and how it get washed out by this challenge beats me. just because Arjun is the hero, doesnt mean that he wasnt wrong.

He might be too good, be hardworking ,can do anything for what he wants, desires, can do anything for his love, in this case Purvi, but still the base fact remains same that he lead two girls without them knowing it.

However he might reason that with his helplessness, he did it.

c)Like this there are umpteen no.of.situation where archu's thought process might be correct but execution failed miserably.

Actually i should blame sulo and only her for this. She brought up archu with a Mind set that she is no where wrong. she will always be right. 

And even today archu feels that way and yet her action contradict to the solution needed.

Sulo isnt guiding archu properly.