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Himmanshoo aka Anoop Appreciation Thread #1 (Page 68)

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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 10:50am | IP Logged
Originally posted by jps01

Thank you dearest Pensink for your awesome update!!!! So did our Anoop really dance? We all know he is a fantastic dancer!!!Tongue

So MIL has laid down rules for Mansi, now the ball is in your court Mansi, don't mess up!!!LOL

And yes Indi, why can't 2 friends who share the same MIL lead a friendly lifestyle!!
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Jay I tried to explain why 2 friends can or cannot lead a friendly life if they are married to 2 brothers and would just mention one more point. they can be friends but being a freind does not mean you dont honor other relationships. Boundaries and limits need to be considered for a happy future. A MIL can be and most of the time does act like a mom but DIL may think jsut because I am her DIL she behaves likethis. But no thats not true. Say if we make mistakes dont our parents/mom scold us ? same when MIL scold why do we think she does not like us. so its just how we react to the things and circumstances that make or break a relationship. Now yu might say how would you know as you have no experience, well I have Sister in laws and have seen my mom's behaviour towards them andcan say from that.
Sorry I think I better stop here. Please no offence to anyone just my opinion and way of seeing things.Smile

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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 11:16am | IP Logged

pensink... No offence girl!!!!  I understand what you are saying ... of course, both DILs will have to adjust to the new household, but that doesn't mean that they cannot still be friends and share their feelings, opinions, etc.  I think it's now that they would need each other's support in entering a completely new house with new relations, of whom they know nothing.  Of course, they'll also have to adjust to the MIL, but that shouldn't cause them to break that friendship!!   They are now married women with responsibilities, and I should hope that they would know that their lives now involve consideration of other people too... not just both of them!!! 

Shivani might be making these demands now because she knows she started off on the wrong foot with the MIL and needs her friend's support!!  Shivani looks like an intelligent girl ... I'm sure she'll change the MIL's opinion of her!!!   Her family are such gentle loving people ... so I would think she has those attributes too!!! 

The MIL scolding should have nothing to do with their friendship.  Of course, as they go along, the MIL may have cause to correct them, which is not wrong. 

Hey pensink, didn't mean to offend, but I said "mostly in  Indian households" ... not all!!!  Then again, most other people don't live in households with extended families  Smile.   I have seen my Mom and her SIS live very happily with my grandmother.  Then again, I have I seen "war" among other in-laws living together!  Sorry if I offended  Embarrassed  !!!  Forgive me???


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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 11:19am | IP Logged
@ Indi, oh oh, we know what kind of MIL Pensink will make one fine day!!!LOL

@ Pensink, point taken and I totally agree with you - Mansi is the DIL of the house and she should not be influenced or dictated by Shivani!!! Be friends, but there is a limit. Actually Naina bhabi's words will constantly echo in her head!!



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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 11:40am | IP Logged
Originally posted by jps01

@ Indi, oh oh, we know what kind of MIL Pensink will make one fine day!!!LOL

@ Pensink, point taken and I totally agree with you - Mansi is the DIL of the house and she should not be influenced or dictated by Shivani!!! Be friends, but there is a limit. Actually Naina bhabi's words will constantly echo in her head!!

Hey first let me become a good DIL its a long way to becoming a MIL.
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and Jay you got my point that they can be friends but need to stay within the limit of their relationships in that house.

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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 11:44am | IP Logged
Originally posted by jps01

@ Indi, oh oh, we know what kind of MIL Pensink will make one fine day!!!LOL

@ Pensink, point taken and I totally agree with you - Mansi is the DIL of the house and she should not be influenced or dictated by Shivani!!! Be friends, but there is a limit. Actually Naina bhabi's words will constantly echo in her head!!



jps ... Ha! Ha1!  The gentle pensink???    A  Dictator????   No way!!!  But that DIl had better toe the line if she knows what's good for her WinkWink !!!!    Seriously, my nani was the strictest lady I ever knew ... gave her own daughters hell (according to them LOLLOL)  ... but she was the sweetest most loving MIL ... her DILs  attest to that!!!   

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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 11:49am | IP Logged
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pensink... No offence girl!!!!  I understand what you are saying ... of course, both DILs will have to adjust to the new household, but that doesn't mean that they cannot still be friends and share their feelings, opinions, etc.  I think it's now that they would need each other's support in entering a completely new house with new relations, of whom they know nothing.  Of course, they'll also have to adjust to the MIL, but that shouldn't cause them to break that friendship!!   They are now married women with responsibilities, and I should hope that they would know that their lives now involve consideration of other people too... not just both of them!!! 

Shivani might be making these demands now because she knows she started off on the wrong foot with the MIL and needs her friend's support!!  Shivani looks like an intelligent girl ... I'm sure she'll change the MIL's opinion of her!!!   Her family are such gentle loving people ... so I would think she has those attributes too!!! 

The MIL scolding should have nothing to do with their friendship.  Of course, as they go along, the MIL may have cause to correct them, which is not wrong. 

Hey pensink, didn't mean to offend, but I said "mostly in  Indian households" ... not all!!!  Then again, most other people don't live in households with extended families  Smile.   I have seen my Mom and her SIS live very happily with my grandmother.  Then again, I have I seen "war" among other in-laws living together!  Sorry if I offended  Embarrassed  !!!  Forgive me???


I never said they cannot be friends but that they are now related as SILs too so Shivani cannot dictate what she wants of Mansi and Mansi should not give in to all her demands. The way mansi and shivani are behaving it seems Mansi will try to cover for all her mistakes and would end up spoiling her.  Will that help Shivani, no. When MIl asked her not to interfere she mainly meant for shivani to lift her weight in this relationship andnot lean on Mansi. Like she forgot the cloth for the ganth bandhan in teh wedding and Mansi gaveher shawl, why? Shivani's mom has married her elder sister too how could they forget such an important thing.
Sweetheart, i never get offended by anything you all say that is why I love all my forum friends. We all express our opinions and each of us respects and honors each others POV

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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 12:09pm | IP Logged
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I never said they cannot be friends but that they are now related as SILs too so Shivani cannot dictate what she wants of Mansi and Mansi should not give in to all her demands. The way mansi and shivani are behaving it seems Mansi will try to cover for all her mistakes and would end up spoiling her.  Will that help Shivani, no. When MIl asked her not to interfere she mainly meant for shivani to lift her weight in this relationship andnot lean on Mansi. Like she forgot the cloth for the ganth bandhan in teh wedding and Mansi gaveher shawl, why? Shivani's mom has married her elder sister too how could they forget such an important thing.
Sweetheart, i never get offended by anything you all say that is why I love all my forum friends. We all express our opinions and each of us respects and honors each others POV



pensink ... Agree!!! They can maintain friendship and SIL relationship.  They just have to know their boundaries and priorities!!!!   That's part of the adjustment they'll have to make as married women ... of course, as in every situation, it will take time, patience, understanding ...  Let's hope that neither one of them will feel that they have to take sides, i.e. against each other or against the MIL!!!   For some reason, I don't feel that the MIL will be unfair to the DILs ... she may disapprove of some things and they may have little misunderstandings, but overall, she doesn't have that cruel, nasty,  plotting look  (like BBAT's Mamis ... Mitho used to have that really nasty look on her face).  Afterall, the MIL gets along fine with the Bua and her DIL!!! 

(LOL!) Mansi had better watch her steps and not offend the MIL, otherwise we'll have Anoop shouting at her for his Mummy dearest Wink !!!!   And we know who Sahil will pick up for!!! 

Speaking as if I know all about this mother-in-law thing, eh  WinkWink!!!   It's easy to comment from the outside, but must be quite different when you are on the inside  Wink!!!   


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Posted: 12 September 2012 at 12:15pm | IP Logged
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I never said they cannot be friends but that they are now related as SILs too so Shivani cannot dictate what she wants of Mansi and Mansi should not give in to all her demands. The way mansi and shivani are behaving it seems Mansi will try to cover for all her mistakes and would end up spoiling her.  Will that help Shivani, no. When MIl asked her not to interfere she mainly meant for shivani to lift her weight in this relationship andnot lean on Mansi. Like she forgot the cloth for the ganth bandhan in teh wedding and Mansi gaveher shawl, why? Shivani's mom has married her elder sister too how could they forget such an important thing.
Sweetheart, i never get offended by anything you all say that is why I love all my forum friends. We all express our opinions and each of us respects and honors each others POV



pensink ... Agree!!! They can maintain friendship and SIL relationship.  They just have to know their boundaries and priorities!!!!   That's part of the adjustment they'll have to make as married women ... of course, as in every situation, it will take time, patience, understanding ...  Let's hope that neither one of them will feel that they have to take sides, i.e. against each other or against the MIL!!!   For some reason, I don't feel that the MIL will be unfair to the DILs ... she may disapprove of some things and they may have little misunderstandings, but overall, she doesn't have that cruel, nasty,  plotting look  (like BBAT's Mamis ... Mitho used to have that really nasty look on her face).  Afterall, the MIL gets along fine with the Bua and her DIL!!! 

(LOL!) Mansi had better watch her steps and not offend the MIL, otherwise we'll have Anoop shouting at her for his Mummy dearest Wink !!!!   And we know who Sahil will pick up for!!! 

Speaking as if I know all about this mother-in-law thing, eh  WinkWink!!!   It's easy to comment from the outside, but must be quite different when you are on the inside  Wink!!!   


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