Posted: 23 July 2012 at 9:37pm | IP Logged
If my memory serves me right, Gulabiya was normally the first to resign to Sardhakai in the past where Sugni was concerned. It is Sugni's determination to let her see the light, why she suddenly started supporting Sugni. Also, Vikram made Sugni feel bad when she almost gave in to her 'fate.' So no matter how wrong Vikram is, he never wanted Sugni to live the life of a Bedni, and he never looked down on Bednis.
I know that is why Vikram is hell bent on not telling the truth because he does not want Sugni to see her fate as a Bedni. Of course with the fact that he does not want to lose her. Lying is wrong, but I am not in Vikram's situation. It did not help matters when Sugni said she would kill herself if he was wrong.
I was very disappointed at Gulabiya statement and yes I voiced it very clearly, because she of all persons should not even say that those words, no matter what point she was trying to make. That is an insult to even mention that on behalf of Sugni. She could have voiced her anger in every other way, but not mention selling her daughter, no matter what point she was trying to make.
Her delivery in how she handles Vikram was not very mature. She escalated the situation. You cant fight fire with fire, especially where your child is concerned.
As I have mentioned more than once, not one of those Thakurs who treated the Bednis like nothing, ever started out nice to them and help their family. They did the whole marriage thing, just to put perfume on what they were really doing, but at the end of the day, these women meant nothing to them. Plus they were paid for their services per night.
Vikram started out just being nice to Sugni and her family, I am sure he did even know why he felt so drawn to help them initially. He never ever wanted to see Sugni do the Rai dance,even at Adi and Amrita's engagement, and she tried to convince him that she was doing it for him, and he still did not agree.
If Gulabiya really wanted to help, she could have taken the time out to hear Vikram out, right away she said he was lying about recently knowing about his wife. As a parent, one must think about the greater good for their child, deciding who your child should be with, does not necessarily mean you are doing it in their best interest, whether you realise or not. Children have to make their own choices, whether we like it or not. She said her piece many times, Sugni did not hear, all she had to do was have faith and calmly figure out how to solve the situation.
Sugni is a sensible girl, and Vikram may not have the right method, but they both feel they are in love, and Gulabiya need to take more time out to realise that and act sensibly in this situation. Ranting and raving and using words like selling her daughter to make her point, will not solve anything, only distance Sugni more, and frustrate Vikram into keeping the lie. So, whether or not Gulabiya is a Mother and we are trying to see her point of view, for me the fact still remains her methods are not wise.
Just my two cents, not meant to offend anyone.