Originally posted by coolgal49
Originally posted by Punkin22
[QUOTE=coolgal49]Sorry guys, do not agree with the general consensus that Khushi leaving RM was a good decision. I do not agree.
If one looks objectively, The Raizada family has suffered a huge betrayal - Anjali being betrayed by her husband is much bigger than Khushi not being trusted! Ofcourse, one will doubt Khushi - she is the new comer and she did not have proof of what she was accusing Shyam for. Remember, ASR TRUSTED her against Shyam - That is the key!
Regarding Anjali being the most important person in Arnav's life - YES, why not? Anjali has been more than a mother to Arnav - Their equation is totally different. Ask any man - For him his mother is the most important person in the world, then comes the wife!
Anjali and Arnav have gone through hardships when they were young! If he had placed Khushi first, my respect for him would have died instantly.
Khushi and Arnav still have to grow as husband and wife - Yes Khushi figured it out that he was kidnapped, and saved his life and risked hers, and that's what made Arnav trust her without any proof. That is growth in my opinion.
But at this stage, when she knows that Arnav needs all the support, it was her duty to stay back and give him the mental support that he so required. But what does she choose to do - Make an excuse and walk out!
Arnav and Anjali's conversation was the best part! Yes, It is Khushi who accused Shyam of all he had done - So obviously Anjali would feel insecure as she has no one but her brother to lean on.
and the reassurance that he gives her was fantastic!!! Yes, Arnav was right that he did not love Khushi before marriage - They were merely attracted to each other - Love is much more that - Love was Khushi risking everything for Arnav's safety. Love was Arnav's trust in Khushi's words against Shyam's.
My two cents worth - They have a lot to grow and most importantly - Older relationships cannot be sidelined for new ones. The balance between all is what counts and Arnav was spot on today!
My two cents worth!
I found your post very interesting and I can't say I agree with most of it especially red print. I don't know where you are from dear but you are wrong in your statement that all men puts their Mother's over wife. Not in my world, US. That is not true and I don't know of any that it is true. That Arnav made that statement to Anjali means Khushi should leave till his gets his priority strait.
Anjali is not a 10 year old; she is a grown woman that needs to learn to stand on her own two feet. She is going to be a Mother. That child will need someone strong to raise it.
We will just have to agree to disagree...
I don't have a problem with you disagreeing. All I am saying is that both Khushi & Arnav should give time to settle down in the relationship. She did not trust him nor did he trust her!
Anjali is way important to Arnav at this juncture! Hey, life is not as simple as "yeah Shyam is out, so Arnav and Khushi has to be happy happy and Anjali has to understand that!!! Life is more complicated than that - From Anjali's point of view - Khushi almost became the second woman in her married life! It was not Khushi's fault whatsoever, but it is hard for Anjali too to accept that!
Ask any married woman to be logical in the situation that Anjali is facing! She was not wrong in misunderstanding Arnav - Hell, when your world has fallen apart, it is difficult to think about anyone and anything logically, you tend to become selfish because of desperate need for support and love! And Anjali is doing just that!!!! The wounds are too fresh at the moment for her!
Yes Arnav forced Khushi to marry him - IT was very wrong - If Khushi had left the RM at the end of 6 months - I would totally agree!! But the reasons she left for RM - Are wrong! The world does not revolve around her alone!! Shyam's betrayal to her is much less compared to his betrayal to the Raizada family. Her continuous lying even to her sister makes her character so weak and pathetic in my opinion. The Khushi shown in the beginning of the serial was so much stronger!
I am so confused - If she has not done anything wrong, why is she feeling sooo guilty? That is uncalled for! Look at Payal - Akash also blamed her, but look at the way she gave it back to him and cemented her place! I am not saying Khushi should do the same, but she can take a leaf out of her sister's book and stop wallowing in self-pity!
Their foundation is too shaky - Arnav is trying to set things right! She should support him as well - Not be submissive but be an equal! and for that leaving the house is not the solution, not in times of adversity like this!
As to your comment about where I am from - I am from India and settled in Europe - I am married for 9 years - in my experience, marriage is slowly built on trust. You don't become each other's No 1 priority just because you are married - You earn that position in each other's life! That is when it becomes stronger!
We are talking about an Indian soap here - so I have seen many sons still giving their family the first priority - The new wife makes her own place in everyone's hearts slowly. Does not happen in a day.
I do know how it is in the US as I have extended families there too.
My two cents worth! :)
Constructive Arguments are very welcome and enjoyable! :)