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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 6:17am | IP Logged
Hear hear!!!

so so agree!! hope to see this happening exactly like this!! She deserves just happiness from now on!!
to be loved, respected and be cherished by the man she loves!!!!

to be the center of his universe!! the one person around whom his life revolves around!! she deserves to be that!!

amazing post di! as usually completely agree!!!

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 6:46am | IP Logged
Rima, I don't know if you will get a chance to read my comments because it is after page 30 of your post.  But was waiting since last night to see your post.  You have said all that I have had in my mind and truly I hope Khushi gets that PRIORITY that she deserves in her life.  A wife's place is different and cannot be measured with all other relations and cannot come after other relations.
 
This is what Arnav must understand.


Edited by Rayka - 24 July 2012 at 6:46am

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 6:51am | IP Logged
Originally posted by rima

Originally posted by DMGFan-2b-not2b

Couldn't agree more! 

It irks me no end when I see how she is getting treated all the time & she is expected to be happy just because Arnav will at times try & woo her and at the others drop her like a hot potato! :-)

You have to be married & live with someone to appreciate how terrible it is not be THE priority in your partner's life. 

I guess for me it's even more difficult to stomach cos I married into a family where my father-in-la, in a room full of people, clearly told my husband, that from now onwards I should be my husband's first priority over every other relationship because we were now two halves of a very special whole. And my husband has been true to that... And when that happens your partner doesn't have to ask u to be his & his family's emotional bedrock, u do it happily & willingly, secure in the knowledge that u r the most imp thing in his /her life.

Sibling love & romantic/spouse love are two completely different emotions yet there will always be a hierarchy - one will take priority over the other.. And no prizes for guessing what that should be!! And if sibling love needs to be reassured that it's a priority at all times, even though u r married, have a physical and emotional relationship with your spose, then it's clingy and frankly unhealthy! If I feel that my brother ( who is happily married) should give me priority over or as much as his wife, I need my head examined & he'd probably agree!

P. S. can I add that it pisses me off no end when Miami calls Khushi & Payal phaati saari & khoon bhaari taang and neither of the Raizada boys or for that matter Raizada clan feels the need to check her? Is this love? Really?

P. P. S. and of course Arnav's pathetic, I didn't love her before marriage and Aakash's "Jo khushiji ne kiya"! Ugh! You do deserve much better Khushi!
well said and i am glad you have such a family
 
sibling love and spouse love are indeed very different. wonder why ipk has it so entagled
 
I agree with you DMGFan.  It is amazing isn't it that for a year Mami has carried on calling both Payal and Khushi and none of their spouses corrected her.  

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 8:14am | IP Logged
I enjoyed reading your post Rima!  These are also my sentiments - Khushi has endured enough for 9 lifetimes!  It's high time she gets some happiness!

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 8:21am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Rayka

Rima, I don't know if you will get a chance to read my comments because it is after page 30 of your post.  But was waiting since last night to see your post.  You have said all that I have had in my mind and truly I hope Khushi gets that PRIORITY that she deserves in her life.  A wife's place is different and cannot be measured with all other relations and cannot come after other relations.
 
This is what Arnav must understand.
i did read your post and thanks for the comment.
correct a wife is the one who stays by one till the end of life

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 8:24am | IP Logged
Originally posted by fluffyktau

posted by PAARIJAT
If it is because of the second reason, leaving or staying in Raizada mansion will not make much of a difference to her problems, its solutions or her state of mind and happiness. Her underlying belief that she is the seed for the ever growing problem tree in RM is enough to ruin her happiness. At the end of it all, location is secondary...what you feel inside is what counts..Knowing Khushi (at least the Khushi for the last 3 months), she will continue to go on her guilt trip whether she is in RM or GM.

totally agree with you...I have a stinking feeling that she left because she feels she is the root cause for the problems!
purleezz!!  its so annoying!  why do they(writers for the show)  feel the need to play this guilt trip on the female...where is Khushi's anger at the injustices delt her?? urggh!

I really really hope they start showing Mr ASR coming clean...he is the worst chicken..hes so yella he matches anjali's sari!
they play with the female because playing with the male will get them death threatsSmileplus audience loves female torture i guess

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 8:24am | IP Logged
Originally posted by princessunara

Hear hear!!!

so so agree!! hope to see this happening exactly like this!! She deserves just happiness from now on!!
to be loved, respected and be cherished by the man she loves!!!!

to be the center of his universe!! the one person around whom his life revolves around!! she deserves to be that!!

amazing post di! as usually completely agree!!!
yes sumara . it is our shared wish that we always keep saying that she should get it all that she deserves

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 12:13pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Punkin22

[QUOTE=coolgal49]Sorry guys, do not agree with the general consensus that Khushi leaving RM was a good decision. I do not agree.

If one looks objectively, The Raizada family has suffered a huge betrayal - Anjali being betrayed by her husband is much bigger than Khushi not being trusted! Ofcourse, one will doubt Khushi - she is the new comer and she did not have proof of what she was accusing Shyam for. Remember, ASR TRUSTED her against Shyam - That is the key!

Regarding Anjali being the most important person in Arnav's life - YES, why not? Anjali has been more than a mother to Arnav - Their equation is totally different. Ask any man - For him his mother is the most important person in the world, then comes the wife! 

Anjali and Arnav have gone through hardships when they were young! If he had placed Khushi first, my respect for him would have died instantly. 

Khushi and Arnav still have to grow as husband and wife - Yes Khushi figured it out that he was kidnapped, and saved his life and risked hers, and that's what made Arnav trust her without any proof. That is growth in my opinion.

But at this stage, when she knows that Arnav needs all the support, it was her duty to stay back and give him the mental support that he so required. But what does she choose to do - Make an excuse and walk out! 

Arnav and Anjali's conversation was the best part! Yes, It is Khushi who accused Shyam of all he had done - So obviously Anjali would feel insecure as she has no one but her brother to lean on. 
and the reassurance that he gives her was fantastic!!! Yes, Arnav was right that he did not love Khushi before marriage - They were merely attracted to each other - Love is much more that - Love was Khushi risking everything for Arnav's safety. Love was Arnav's trust in Khushi's words against Shyam's. 

My two cents worth - They have a lot to grow and most importantly - Older relationships cannot be sidelined for new ones. The balance between all is what counts and Arnav was spot on today! 

My two cents worth! 
 
I found your post very interesting and I can't say I agree with most of it especially red print.  I don't know where you are from dear but you are wrong in your statement that all men puts their Mother's over wife.  Not in my world, US.  That is not true and I don't know of any that it is true.  That Arnav made that statement to Anjali  means Khushi should leave till his gets his priority strait.
 
Anjali is not a 10 year old; she is a grown woman that needs to learn to stand on her own two feet.  She is going to be a Mother.  That child will need someone strong to raise it. 
 
We will just have to agree to disagree...
 

I don't have a problem with you disagreeing. All I am saying is that both Khushi & Arnav should give time to settle down in the relationship. She did not trust him nor did he trust her! 

Anjali is way important to Arnav at this juncture! Hey, life is not as simple as "yeah Shyam is out, so Arnav and Khushi has to be happy happy and Anjali has to understand that!!! Life is more complicated than that - From Anjali's point of view - Khushi almost became the second woman in her married life! It was not Khushi's fault whatsoever, but it is hard for Anjali too to accept that! 

Ask any married woman to be logical in the situation that Anjali is facing! She was not wrong in misunderstanding Arnav - Hell, when your world has fallen apart, it is difficult to think about anyone and anything logically, you tend to become selfish because of desperate need for support and love! And Anjali is doing just that!!!! The wounds are too fresh at the moment for her! 

Yes Arnav forced Khushi to marry him - IT was very wrong - If Khushi had left the RM at the end of 6 months - I would totally agree!! But the reasons she left for RM - Are wrong! The world does not revolve around her alone!! Shyam's betrayal to her is much less compared to his betrayal to the Raizada family. Her continuous lying even to her sister makes her character so weak and pathetic in my opinion. The Khushi shown in the beginning of the serial was so much stronger! 

I am so confused - If she has not done anything wrong, why is she feeling sooo guilty? That is uncalled for! Look at Payal - Akash also blamed her, but look at the way she gave it back to him and cemented her place! I am not saying Khushi should do the same, but she can take a leaf out of her sister's book and stop wallowing in self-pity! 

Their foundation is too shaky - Arnav is trying to set things right! She should support him as well - Not be submissive but be an equal! and for that leaving the house is not the solution, not in times of adversity like this! 

As to your comment about where I am from - I am from India and settled in Europe - I am married for 9 years - in my experience, marriage is slowly built on trust. You don't become each other's No 1 priority just because you are married - You earn that position in each other's life! That is when it becomes stronger! 

We are talking about an Indian soap here - so I have seen many sons still giving their family the first priority - The new wife makes her own place in everyone's hearts slowly. Does not happen in a day.

I do know how it is in the US as I have extended families there too. 

My two cents worth! :) 

Constructive Arguments are very welcome and enjoyable! :) 



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