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Posted: 23 July 2012 at 10:48pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by surabhi01

i dont know what tinoo sidra r saying pur mera point yeh hai ki jagya ko acchi tarah pata tha ki bhago anandi ke saath fully emotionally attached hain phir bhi jagya ne jaanbhuj kur aisi harkat ki  ki  bhago ko takleef ho .some people r now uselesly blaming bhago inspite she ask forgive from sandhya teacher .now jagya is fully responsible for bhago  condition  because he never went to bhago to ask forgive but instead he is chikna ghada .ab koi fayada nahi maafi maagne se kyonki maafi magne se bhago  ki life nahi aa jayegi 
i think their  points are pretty clear ...here thing is not asking forgiveness from sandhaya teacher but people are saying Bhago suffered somewhere because of her wrong decision ...she didn't listen to sandhaya at right time hence it lead to a big mess in her daughter's life also hers ...i dont see any thing wrong saying it ...


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Posted: 23 July 2012 at 11:07pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by surabhi01

and please before supporting jagya remember what he was doing with anandi before he met gauri remember mela scene and birthday scene payal scene and remember that scene also when small jagya went to meet anandi at bilaria without telling his parent.kum se kum bhago ne to nahi kaha tha anandi jagya se milne  jaitsar jao. un paanch varshon mein
who is supporting whatever Jagaya did is rightD'ohwe are only saying if he repents for his mistakes then he should be forgiven at least by his family otherwise he will die alone will that justify all ..?if DS and mahveer singh who did numerous mistakes can be forgiven when they realized and repented then why not him ?..if you see their previous  works they are no less 


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Posted: 23 July 2012 at 11:09pm | IP Logged
I really do not understand how Jagya became directly responsible for Bhago's ill health.Bhago's health deteriorated because of her own guilt and sense of helplessness in this situation.Bhago and Khazan did the same thing years ago what Jyothi's parents did.If Jyothi's parents are wrong Anandi's parents are also wrong.
As far as Jagya's role in Bhago's death.Jagya has been wrong in the way he treated Anandi.For that he has to apologise to Anandi's parents.
All in all It was Anandi's parents,Jagya's parents and most importantly dadisa and Jagya once he became an adult  are responsible for Anandi's current state.

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Posted: 23 July 2012 at 11:41pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by leo4ever

 
she took a decison - however wrong right( at that time there was no law agianst it hence not a crime rather the way of marriage in the entire district so it was more of a way of life)  from her view: she agve a richer home, the biggest haveli in village, aklota beta, decen folks all that,
ddnt work out thats another thing!
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leo4ever--
 
I want to correct you on one matter -- you say there was no law against it at the time and hence not a crime.  That is not correct.
 
child marriage was first banned and made illegal in 1918 by the British.  Then, this law was re-codified as an Indian law when India got its first constitution in 1950.  This is the case in reality, and it was also the case in the serial balika vadhu.
 
when anandi got married, it was most certainly a crime and illegal. 
 
When the marriage was first fixed, anandi was withdrawn out of school by bhago.
Teacherji came to know from anandi the real reason of stopping school.
 
Teacherji came with a bunch of policeman (and good law upholding policemen) to stop the wedding.    Unfortunately, at that time, there was no evidence because the marriage had not yet started ... (unlike jyoti and the boy who were actually in the mandap)... it was just looking like some gala function ... so the police threatened bhago and khajan that they would put them in jail... if they found out it was indeed a wedding.   And bhago and khajan denied that it was anandi's wedding.
 
Then anandi was called out by the police and asked whether her parents were arranging her marriage ... eight year old anandi knew that her parents would be arrested... so she deliberately lied to the police and said that teacherji must be under some mistaken impression... it was just a party not a wedding.
 
The police had to leave the wedding without making any arrests because they had no proof... and because of anandi's lie ... anandi got married.
 
The gaanv people were so enraged with teacherji that they ransacked her house,  packed her stuff into one suitcase,  and manhandled her.
 
Ultimately after beating teacherji up,  they threw her into a bus, asked her to leave the village forever, and threw in her suitcase after her... teacherji had to leave the village and was badly beaten up...  anandi and bhago both witnessed this illtreatment and physical abuse of teacherji and siad nothing at the time.
 
But regardless of bhago's intentions to provide her daughter a rich life by marrying her into the haveli,  she did indeed know that it was a crime.
 
Infact, when the child marriage with gauri happened,  khajan was ready to go to the police to get gauri's parents arrested for their illegal child marriage (LOL hypocrite)... then the sarpanch of two villages told him to shut up, because if the police came then they would arrest khajan and bhago as well... because the police would never uphold the illegal child marriage of anandi either.  So then khajan suddenly became quiet.
 
so both bhago and khajan very well knew that it was a crime.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Posted: 23 July 2012 at 11:57pm | IP Logged
bhago isliye helpless kyonki woh yahi sochti ki meri beti  ko uska husband chod kur chala gaya hai meri beti ki doosri shadi ho nahi sakti kyonki usne samajh liya tha chodi hui ladki se dubara kaun shadi karega aur meri beti ko bina kisi gunah ke akele life bitani padegi. 
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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 12:02am | IP Logged
Originally posted by surabhi01

bhago isliye helpless kyonki woh yahi sochti ki meri beti  ko uska husband chod kur chala gaya hai meri beti ki doosri shadi ho nahi sakti kyonki usne samajh liya tha chodi hui ladki se dubara kaun shadi karega aur meri beti ko bina kisi gunah ke akele life bitani padegi. 
 
okay she feels that nobody will marry a lady again whose husband has abandoned her...
but i feel that she is being 'deeth'  by yet again compelling her to marry another man who is a complete stranger ... without checking into his antecedents, or checking with him about his feelings for anandi.
 
is it just the state of being married that bhago seeks for anandi?  A Mrs. somebody or the other?
 
or is it a marriage in the true spirit of the term that she should be seeking?  (a companion who loves and respects anandi and uplifts her?)
 
dadisa said "shiv is a good boy"... so she believes it just like that?
 
if at all bhago should be giving anyone a 'kasam', then it should be shiv that he will never hurt anandi like jagya did.   does she not even want khajan to investigate the boy or meet him for herself?
 
what if she pushes anandi into a second useless marriage before dying?  i personally think that istead of calling jagat 'deeth'... we should call bhago deeth.

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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 12:07am | IP Logged
aur tinoo ji aap baar baar police incident ka jikar kur rahi hain bhago ne jo sandhya se maafi mangi uske baare mein to boliye
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Posted: 24 July 2012 at 12:10am | IP Logged
Originally posted by tinoo

I fully agree with jerney -- it is bhago's own fault and cannot be pinned on jagat.
 
Hindsight is 20/20 and we can all go back and pick faults in people ... and that is not right ... but if at all we are to pick faults then   I know that bhago's intention was good -- to see her daughter "settled" as beendhni,  however, it was so clear to her that her daughter was very unhappy in so many respects -- when she got married first, anandi had run away because of dadisa's torture, and run back to bhago who promptly dragged her back and dumped her back in dadisa's charan...  she never listened to anandi's complaints or even tried to understand and pacify her first atleast, even if she was going to drag her to the haveli ... telling her daughter that now all she had to look forward to was "beendhni dharm"... some of dadisa's treatment was inhuman to say the least at that time...
 
even when they were planning to send anandi to bombay,  and anandi did not want to go  (because of jagat's nature)... bhago never once asked her why she didnt want to go, whether there were problems etc... she turned her back towards anandi looked at the camera and said "just go where your beendh is... no discussion anymore"...
 
I mean even if bhago's first decision of child marriage was not intentional,  for a good 16 years thereafter, she has neglected anandi's emotional needs.  i am not saying she had to interfere in haveli affairs or interfere in the J-A marriage ... but atleast she could have understood the situation and given anandi a listening ear (like gauri's mom does for gauri ... it may be ridiculous suggestions that gauri's mom gives, but i appreciate the fact that she "listens" and tries to be a sounding board for gauri)...
 
anandi is a strong individual ... if she just felt like she had a "safe space" to vent or to confide in, then i think anandi's mental state would also have been better ...
 
bhago has neglected her responsibilities as if now after anandi is married off, she has no responsibilities towards her as a mom, except every now and then to show up at the haveli with a couple of saris and a box of laddoos. 
 
 
 
 
THIS, basically. Great post, tinoo. Clap Clap Clap

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