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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 1:48pm | IP Logged
ok, where did volderbear disappear? I thought she was gonna tell her story.


oops! awkward moment!LOL


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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 1:49pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by molten_lava

Originally posted by -chamkilli-

Originally posted by Dalmuthuya

Originally posted by molten_lava

Originally posted by Dalmuthuya

Originally posted by molten_lava

Ok, I'll share my own experience to volderbear to show that life isn't that bad.

Here's the story of my own parents.

My dad's originally from a village and my mom from the city. They had an arranged marriage where my mom didn't know that he was from a village. So the first day of their marriage, my mom had the shock of her life. she lived in the village for six months. My dad was a banker though. So after my mom was pregnant with me, they moved to the city. And then life's struggle began. My mom was unhappy with my dad because there was always a clash in a city vs village thinking. I've grown up seeing violent fights everyday with my parents. Ok in the middle so many things happened. It was so bad, it went till the divorce stage. And I was asked to chose to whom I will live with.

And then three years ago, my mom was diagnosed with cancer. And that changed everything in our lives. Even today my mom fights with my dad, but both love each other. Both realised that they loved each other only after this event.
Inspite of fighting constantly for 20 yrs of marriage, my dad is still beside my mom on her death bed. So yeah, men aren't always bad and there is still hope.

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Oh sweet heart <3 I will pray for your mom. I am trying and I will keep trying.. hopefully I find someone who has unconditional love.


And even if you don't find one, you have me.LOLWe'll go on a world tour and have fun. chuck the men!Tongue

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LOL And this is why you are my Gummy Bear <3LOL
hey what about me bears fine i see how it is


Come we'll all go on a world tour. Bears only!LOL
We'll go to Madagascar, Bali, Iceland, Chile, Congo, Alaska.WinkLOL
oh dont forget parus California

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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 1:50pm | IP Logged
Although from that dark experience I have learnt to be compassionate and understanding. This is why I want to help people badly. And that's my goal. :) I did find some of the light in my darkness. Now I just got to find the rest. 

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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 1:54pm | IP Logged
Omg thats crazy. I dont know what to say right now besides I am sorry. How did your dad mellow down?

I have issues with my mom and right now Im going through a phase where I love her only for the sake God and its hard. I cant be myself after we go through some things. How is your relationship with your dad now?

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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 1:58pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by waterunder11

Omg thats crazy. I dont know what to say right now besides I am sorry. How did your dad mellow down?

I have issues with my mom and right now Im going through a phase where I love her only for the sake God and its hard. I cant be myself after we go through some things. How is your relationship with your dad now?

Prayer. That's how he did and eventually I began to stand up for myself. I am not afraid of him anymore and in fact he is more afraid of me. Painfully I have forgiven him since he is my father so we got an alright relationship. Almost close, but still inside I cannot forget. But I do try. And yeah, right now too we are going through a hard time financially and mom is being not the best. It's hard, but life goes on. We got to keep moving. 

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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 2:00pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Dalmuthuya

My story starts since I was born.. My family was poor. And I was terribly having asma. My dad... he was violent. Once I turned 4 every day I got abused along with my mom. Along the line a man I didn't know molested me. I am not sure whether he went far because I can't remember all that well. 10 years we suffered like that. I was just like Arnav. I put an angry front. I pushed away everyone and I wanted commit suicide. But thank god my heavenly father stopped me that day. Anyways, I kept praying, and fighting. Eventually we got to come to Canada. Dad was more mellow and we had peace, but the scars were still deeply infested in to my body. I was afraid to open up to anyone. Every day I saw nightmares. But someone entered to my life and changed it all. My first boy friend. He was the perfect guy. Loving, understanding, caring. I could literally speak to him about anything. We had something for 10 months. Something so deep and special. I thought everything was amazing and finally gained my trust in men, but it was all an illusion. He was not what I thought he was. 3 days before I told him my dark secret about the molestation. And I thanked him for loving me and respecting me, but 3 days later he cheated on me. That's when everything I believed in shattered. So now I cannot trust anybody, especially men. Every time I think there is a good guy I think it's an illusion. Too much pain. So this is why I prefer being single, but it sucks, because I have always wanted to be mother. So that I can give all the love I couldn't get as a child. 

Oh wow. I just told my life story... 

First of all, I'm sending virtual big hugs to you. And I pray that you have a happy future ahead and can move on from this.
One thing I would say to you is that you were too young that time. And even probably the guy. So at that age, guys are never serious. They only want casual stuff. Actually you are too young even right now. Maybe once you cross 20 and have a degree and a job, I'm sure you will meet many more good guys who will be serious for a relationship. And if you still don't find anyone, I'll send some hot lankan guys to your place ;)

About the mother thingy, even I've always wanted to be one. But as I said, I'm gonna end up a 50 yr old virgin. But like Barney, I won't be sad, I'll be awesome instead. So I've made back up plans to adopt orphan kids. That way they will be happy too and me too. Big smile

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Oh god u guys have real sad stories i inly read or watched movies based on this but never experienced it yes i,am st rong but naturally never learned to be strong

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Posted: 26 July 2012 at 2:00pm | IP Logged
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Omg thats crazy. I dont know what to say right now besides I am sorry. How did your dad mellow down?

I have issues with my mom and right now Im going through a phase where I love her only for the sake God and its hard. I cant be myself after we go through some things. How is your relationship with your dad now?

Prayer. That's how he did and eventually I began to stand up for myself. I am not afraid of him anymore and in fact he is more afraid of me. Painfully I have forgiven him since he is my father so we got an alright relationship. Almost close, but still inside I cannot forget. But I do try. And yeah, right now too we are going through a hard time financially and mom is being not the best. It's hard, but life goes on. We got to keep moving. 


Thats the key you gotta keep moving. I am glad you all are smart and understand that. There are others who go into depression or some psychological problems and cant move on, which makes it worst.

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